Dating different guys

[angel-cake]

Kind of asked this question before.....but: I've not long been out of a long term relationship so don't want anything too serious. I have been asked out by a few men and would like to date more than one of them (!)

Is this acceptable to do this? and should I tell them, or keep it quiet. I don't want to tell outright lies but until someone actually says they want a serious relationship with me, surely it's ok to date different men isn't it?

Been in relationship for over six years so have forgotton about the dating game!

[dotty.]

oh get em all worked up and fighting over you, take the chance to enjoy life,

[angel-cake]

My problem is i am too damn honest.

Should I avoid mentioning any of the others to any one of them?

[Hellion]

Absolutely - I think I'd be honest though and tell them about each other - it avoids complications later.

[Hellion]

Ward Minter you're only a slag if you sleep with all of them - there's nothing wrong with just dating especially if you are honest about the others. If you find you like one more than the others be honest and straight and end it with the others.

[Cobra2]

angel-cake, just say you want a casual datie thing.

or

have a few dates then make excuses and dont return their calls

[angel-cake]

Perhaps, mr ward-minter, it is not possible to tell after just one date whether I like him enough for a serious relationship?? (or him liking me enough).

To me, a date is going for a meal, or a few drinks etc. Maybe you expect a girl to want to sh** you straight away but I am not like that.

Surely it is stupid to turn down a date from a nice guy just because I have another date a few days later with someone I really don't know much about. I can hardly say I am in a relationship if we have not even had our first date!!! Im pretty sure that would make even the most old-fashioned male run 1000 miles!!!!!

[mccfluff]

i don't think its wrong to date different guy's at the same time as long as its just going out for a date, but it does get very complicated especially if you start going down the kissing/sex line, personally i may go out with various guys but would not kiss or sleep with anyone unless we are the 'only ones' in the relationship.

[Cobra2]

Angel-Cake, I am a bloke and have had god knows how many single dates in last couple of years coz I did not feel like I wanted to go anywhere with them. You dont know till youve been on a date whether you want another date.

Just do that.

[mccfluff]

sorry i also meant ot say good luck and i hope all goes well x

[steviep165]

w~m, u'r wife is locked in a closet somewhere isnt she. dnt be callin the ladie a slag on the basis of nothing. where is the harm in going out for a meal and a few drinks with more than one person as long as there is nothing more serious than that. the lass is trying to find the right man and as long as everyone knows the score what the hell is the problem.
now let her out to do the cleaning and make your supper.

[angel-cake]

Thanks stevie!!

And w-m, I haven't made my mind up, just think you are implying that I am doing more than just 'dating' with them...

[steviep165]

dont mention it angel. i cant abide that sort of old fashioned claptrap, gives us blokes a bad name. you keep fishing pet, the right man is out there somewhere.

[steviep165]

come on w~m, since when has your brand of pure logic had anything to do with matters of the heart.
if you date one and like him, fine.
if you find the 2nd nicer then thats tough on the 1st. you tell him the score. men appreciate honesty.
angel isnt committing to anything on the basis of a few dates anyway, and thats perfectly right.
you go into the situation being totally honest. "i'm free and single, so dont think your going 2 be the only optiop i have. my eyes are open and i'm considering all avenues".
what happens if you like the 1st date you go on and dnt explore more. what could you be missing. i'm in no way condoning this as a way to conduct a serious relationship, but while you'r still out there looking for the best you can get, you have to give yourself the chance to find the best you can get.

[steviep165]

the 21st century dating era is a totally different scenario to the old days when u and me were in the game. as far as i'm concerned ( and i'm in no way saying my opinion is right) a lady should be allowed to weigh up all the options.
look at the current divorce rate. what can a person, male or female, do. the pressure is there to make the correct decision all the time.
i can totally see where you're coming from mate, but i know if i was getting back into the cauldron i'd want to make sure that the next choice i made was the right one.

[angel-cake]

I think I will just see how they go. I would not expect any one of them to commit to me after one date, and would expect that they were probably also seeing other women, therefore I will keep it quiet as I would not want to know about their other dates.

Until I am with someone I want to commit to, and them to me, I am going to play the field!!

Thanks for everyones replies!