I just dont think its working

[thaiti16]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months now. I Just feel like he isnt the right one for me. But i just cant brake things off because i really like him. When ever i try to talk about things i dont like about our relationship he just tells me that he doesnt want to talk about it right now.?? Any comments

[xx cutie xx]

perhaps you'd be better off as friends? or if not you need to be able to talk about the good and the bad of the relationship to get anywhere. him putting off talking about things may be because he's scared. you never know just talking things through may help you feel closer and like the relationship is right xx

[rugeleyboy]

please dont read to much into this................

you should be honest with this person now, because if you hold onto it for much longer it will be a lot harder to get out of, perhaps your worried about hurting the feelings of this person but before you know it you will be involved in a loveless marriage and it is even harder to get out of then,especially with 2 great kids to wake up with everyday!!

i will wake up in the morning and totally regret saying all this!! hoorah for budwieser and sambukas!!!

[raysparx]

By not telling him how you feel,you will carry on in a meaningless relationship,is it fair to either of you ? I would say NO, he might have the same feelings about it as you,but just plodding along cos you like him is no reason at all, it is too easy to just carry on seeing each other but where is it going? Nowhere, Tell him how you feel for both your sakes,what will you say to him if he wants to get engaged or married ? be brave do it now, Ray

[rengo]

I can totally identify with you as I have just split up with my boyfriend of four years and it took me aaaaages to do it!
I think the fact that he's avoiding what you are trying to say shows that he knows you aren't happy-he's just putting his head in the sand. You have to say it though because if nothing else the stress of constantly worrying about it will drive you mad. So next time he says he doesn't want to talk about it right now, tell him that you do! You'll feel a lot better xx