talking

[leeds2murcia]

Why do i find it so hard to talk about my feelings, i always put on a happy face because thats what i have always done. I feel silly / stupid when i do show my emotions like crying. I am going to the doctors today to ask for counciling because if i don't start opening up more i will loose out again on what i want so much....Love

[China Doll]

Awww Leeds I'm the same... I rarely open up to anyone and just put on a smiley face. I've gotten better recently and have actually forced myself to tell people when i'm not happy but I still find it very hard to do and I hate crying in front of people or anything that I percieve might make me look vulnerable. The only reason I've been able to do that tho was cause I went through some stuff last year which I just couldn't hide so loads of people would catch me crying randomly.I think for me it's a control thing so I'm now trying to let that side of me go a little more, it's hard but I'm slowly but surely getting there. And the fact is that your friends and family want to be there for you when you're having a hard time in the same way you're most likely there for them, I'm only just learning that now. Good luck to you, I hope it all works out for you xx

[Wee Kaz]

Maybe you are just not an emotional person. There's nothing wrong with finding it difficult in expressing yourself so don't beat yourself up. If there is a problem that is stopping you from opening up and you feel that councelling would benefit then maybe it's a good thing that you do go. Good luck honey x

[mrrobbo15]

go 4 it...i was very much the same and was lucky enough to get counciling........it really as changed my life around.

....dont get me wrong it wasnt easy, in fact it was really tough and i shedded floods of tears......and to tell you more, i dont think i wud b here today without it. i wud bottle up things, constantly worry over everything and never say 'boo to a goose'

good luck

[WendyS]

Perhaps you are worried about loss of face, having to face people afterwards and wondering what they will think of you. It's really important to be able to talk about how you're are feeling and not repress everything that is worrying you. If this is proving difficult for you, why not have a few telephone conversations with the Samaritans? You will be completely anonmous. Nobody will ever know who you are and I believe they also offer an e-mail "listening" service as well. Start off in this low key way and then once you have built up your confidence in talking about emotionally difficult topics, you may find it easier to talk to people you know and trust.

[Robinia]

I used to be like that and to a certain extent I still am & I'm 52! Were you (like me) brought up with a parent/parents that didn't show their emotions? Quite often if you actually tell someone that you're worried/afraid/etc about something you find they feel or have felt the same way too!
It is hard to grow out of it but good that you're seeking some help. Things might have been better for me if I had but I didn't even realise that I could be any different....
all the best. x