Addicted to flirting!!!

[Dan Glebitts]

I never used to be amazing with women and i put that down to infrequent contact and interaction with the opposite sex (eg single sex education) but in the last few months to a year, I have found that when i converse with a woman, it all comes naturally and i cant stop flirting.
I flirt and flirt and we end up going out....no matter how long i have known her for! I have discussed it with mates and they say i should cut it out a bit, I once had 12 women wanting to go out at the same time.
I dont want to be labelled as a womaniser and im not "dating" any of them properly, like BF GF and i dont know what to do or how to stop.....but before i go any further i would like to hear other peoples views because i know its just not right. I dont intentionally flirt, i just always seem to compliment women in a way that makes me seem attractive, i dont know what it is...it just sort of...happens.
Call me young and inexperienced but i would really be grateful for opinions (nasty and nice) and some good answers..... thanks in advance :-D

[Dan Glebitts]

i'd like to add, I just want to settle down for a while with ONE individual and not be "dating" lots of different women at similar times as i know how htings like that can really affect and hurt people.....things just get out of hand and the calendar becomes a mess......

[ohidontknow]

i think mr that you are just using this site to boast of your conquests and dont feel bad at all.

[B00]

Pffft at ya flirting skills, it's nowt to do with ya gabbing prowess why these wimin are falling over themselves for ya. It's the fistful of fivers you wave in front of their noses that holds the real attraction!- hehehe ;-)

sorry, I'll be serious now.....

Why shouldn't you flirt and go out with lots of women? You're young, free and single and as long as you're not hurting anyone- go for it!
Life's crap enough without enjoying it while you can.

[nat_84]

gosh the way u wrote that paragraph... they way u used those sexy powerful words and phrases just makes me wanna jump into bed with u!!!

;0P

[Dan Glebitts]

thanks BOO, i understand what you mean but like i say, it would be nice to just settle down for a bit....i dont want to feel like im going behind peoples backs and betraying them all the time....."ohidontknow", i am shocked to see that you think i would boast over something that troubles me.....reflecting on my question i also understand your point of view but i will say now, you are wrong. Sorry for any confusion....

[natalie_1982]

Dan, I think you are boasting. I think you never really had female attention before and now you have some you want the world to know. A bit like Glyn from BB.

However, Boo is right (as always!) you should go out and have fun, enjoy yourself - you're young (you don't say how young and although it's not PC if you were 86 and going out with 12 women at a time it would make me feel ill).

As long as you're not hurting anyone there shouldn't be a problem, be honest with the girls you take out - and from your last post, why are you going behind people's backs? Be careful and don't hurt people, it's not worth it.

[Dan Glebitts]

i would just like to say, i was not trying to boast at all, just trying to gain some worth while and understandable advice, which i have definetely goten and i expect i will get many more answers like those before....I just dont know :-(

[ohidontknow]

having an " i hate men" day but still i will definitely not shed tears for you tonight!! no not really dan , go for it.. have fun .

[nat_84]

Dan.. how old are u?

Flirting and women wanting you isnt a bad thing....

I think having a good old flirt is the best thing since sliced bread and ive got a fella!

Its all fun, aslong as you dont hurt any of the young ladies and they know where they stand with you.

[ohidontknow]

by the way ..you aren't " thee" dan glebitts are you? .. sorry just messin with ya!!
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[natalie_1982]

Also, although flirting is fun, be careful not to get a name for yourself.

There's a guy in the police (who I work closely with) who is ntorious for constantly texting and flirting with every girl in our office, and the rest of the building come to think of it. Now, the girls make sure that he cannot get hold of their number because it doesn't exactly make you feel special or flattered when you know he is asking you out and your mate has just turned him down!! the circumstances are slightly different I know, but make sure you are going out with these girs because you actually want to because they are nice girls, not because you want to build your ego. This guy is married so it makes it doubly worse.

Sorry if that sounded harsh, I don't mean it to just, basically, if want to meet iwht a nice girl then go for it, but don't feel you have to and, like i said before, let the girl know where she stands. And if it doesn't work out and you don't want to meet her again then just give her a text to say so.

[ohidontknow]

your not having a quiet sulk now are you dan?..you must be good dan cause i do believe i am flirting..

[Pippa68]

I didn't think Dan was boasting at all.

Dan ~ at your age it is perfectly normal to do what you are doing, and if it is working then carry on love! you have plenty of time ahead of you to find 'the one' and no doubt when you do find her, you will want to be exclusive..and she might want that too :o)

have fun!

[Dan Glebitts]

thanks everyone for yer top notch answers, fun is fun but things can get out of hand i s'pose.....everything in moderation i guess. thing is, theres a girl i really like right now, and she feels the same for me, probably more and we are going out tonight for a romantic walk along the river and then goin to the cinema....she says im the nicest guy shes ever met and i feel quite smug about that. Thing is, lots of other girls have been finding me very "interesting" recently too and are asking me to go out with them and things.......i'll just take it as it comes but try and control myself.......Im 17 by the way, thanks again x

[ohidontknow]

byeee dan ... we love you!

[natalie_1982]

Enjoy your stroll by the river - it's supposed to rain tomorrow (though I guess that depends where you are), don't be tempted to push her in because you have other girls waiting LOL.

I am of course joking (but it is an option!).

Have a great weekend, enjoy the sunshine tonight x

[Pippa68]

Go enjoy yourself Dan ~ I have a lovely feel-good feeling today, so all this talk of romance & courtship is only making me feel better in this sometimes horrible world...

[Katie~77]

Dan, you're alive! Where have you been??? I love it when you flirt with me, so don't change.x

[Dan Glebitts]

Alright Katie, yep, im here....nice to know someone cares :-P

Thanks everyone, i feel a spring in my step already

[$~Jeep~$]

Dan, I guess the reason why all these women are turning their attention to you, is because you are happy where you are, its given you confidence, and your at ease so flirting is now like second nature. Good for you, your feeling good about yourself and it shows!!

Go for it, your only young once, play the field and enjoy yourself. Like the others have said be polite and thoughtful when you dump 'em!!