Girl trouble

[chimney]

There's this girl who I really like but she has just finished a relationship and doesn't want to dive straight in to another one, which is understandable, but I really want to be with her, she knows how I feel but I don't know how to play it from now. Can anyone help?

[Silversky]

Give her time, if she truly means what she says then she'll come to you when she's ready. If you keep on at her then she'll see you as insensitive and forward, which will make her back away.

Good luck.

[chimney]

Cheers pal

[kipchik]

Just be there chimney,give her time,she's adjusting to life outside of a 'couple',who knows,maybe as time goes on she'll feel able to take the next step with you,just being a friend to her for now,will go a long way,all the best relationships come out of friendship,good luck!

[WendyS]

Could you just try and sugest doing the odd friendly thing together which couldn't really be called dating as such, like going for a swim, playing tennis or jogging together.. Or if you're not keep-fit types, having a game of cards or playing scrabble together). These are things where you don't get involved in too much deep conversation which she may be wary of at the moment. . Then just go your separate ways afterwards. That way she can have your company without feeling she's being pressurised into deepening the relationship.

As she already knows how you feel about her, you're going to have to be pretty disciplined about not trying to push the boundaries further at this point, otherwise she will probably completely back off. But if she can trust you to limit your friendship to agreed limits, she may in time want to spend more time with you.

[country_boy]

What WendyS says - also if she knows you are always there and interested she probably won't be! Perhaps go out on the odd date with someone else and if she hears about it, it may start her thinking she may miss the boat.