Age

[ellen_16]

Does age matter? I'm 17 - hes 28. :(

[maggie01]

It depends. I suppose you could say he has lived and you are just starting your adult life. Depends if he is a mature 28yr old . I personally could see problems in future years when you are still young. I have a friend whose husband is 10yrs older than her and she still likes clubbing etc and the cracks are beginning to show. That said, I don't think they are likely to split up. Depends on the individuals I guess.

[crete]

no not if there is love involved

[mnko]

age does'nt matter, but saying that there is 11 years, it seems alot but try and think when hes 40 u will b 29 . it doesnt sound as bad. if u feel he's the one go 4 it. if it dont work out then learn from it. are u a mature 17year old? whatever u decide good luck im 32 my wife is 25 we have no problems she likes the older man lol

[wonder years]

heres a little verse, age is just a number its how you feel inside if youe love is stong enough this you should never hide.

[electricblue]

When i was 16 i was seeing of nearly 30,we were together over a year,maybe it worked cos we were into the same things,he had a bike(a big one) and i was hanging out with bikers too,i was quite mature for my age,and he was'nt overly 'old' if u know what i mean,it didnt end well though as he wanted to prove he still 'had it' and i met someone else,but i believe it can work despite the age gap,if its what you both really want!

[noxlumos]

I once had a 17 year old girlfriend when I was in my thirties and despite the fact that we parted, we did so on good terms and it was nothing to do with the age gap.Go for it if you love each other.

[Lore]

I'm 33 and my fiance is 26 - I've questioned the age gap so many times in terms of - why would he want to be with an older woman etc but the reality is, it works, we're just meant to be.

even tho I've been through the whole cradle snatcher routine, sugar mommy... which fine wine goes with a happy meal? Which peanut butter goes with mature cheese? etc etc etc.

Just go for it if it feels right.

[Catso]

Sorry to disgree with the consensus, but I think yes, in the longer term. People change as they grow up and I think I changed a lot between mid-teens and mid-20s. You are going to be a very different person in 10 years, whereas he won't have changed that much. So what attracts you now might not be there in 5 years.

And as others have said, when you're still in your early 20s, wanting clubbing, fun and excitement, he'll be in his 30s, and probably won't.

But even so I wouldn't disagree with the advice to 'go for it'. You've nothing to lose and lots to gain. Enjoy what you have now, don't not do it just because you're worried about the future.

[Orangesauce1]

there is 10 years between me and my man, i'm 25 he is almost 35! but the age gap is perfect, I am mature and he is a kid at heart so it isn't a matter of how old but how well you get on.

[barb1314]

no problem...we are 10 years apart and have been married 17 years (together 19) I was 20 when we first met.He did lie at the beginning and knock 5 years off but I forgave him! We still love each other to bits. NEVER AN ISSUE FOR US.

[pinkspangle]

I think this all depends on the situation! I went out with a guy 18 years older thean me, he had already been married and had a 15 year old child and was certain he wouldn't do it all again..marriage and kids etc.. But unfortunately i wanted all that. We were so suited to each other but wanted such different things from our futures. I eventually ended it, but to this day i am still in love with him ( 3 years on). If he had been 10 years younger we would still be together and probably happily married with a family! So in this case, yes age did matter!x