Am i bi or confused

[4whatsername]

I dont know weither im bi or not. At times im sure i am and then i end up thinking, maybe im not. Im not sure. I have made out with a guy and a girl. I found them both enjoyable. I wouldnt mind having a relationship with a girl but at times find it easier to just stick with guys. What would make a person a bisexual?

[fee-is-me]

Er... just a guess... but if you found them BOTH enjoyable... then that kinda answers your question.

[redcrx]

'easier just to stick with guys'? hmm sounds like a lazy bisexual to me :)

[fee-is-me]

Lol @ red!

Btw... it is NOT 'easier' to stick with guys, believe me.

[steviep165]

oi!!!

[4whatsername]

Okay, let me add some questions to top. Is it possible to favor one gender over another? and, Do u think im bi or am i just enjoying the moment and not putting gender in my mind?

[4getmenot]

Wow what a great name, how original hers some others for you � redcrax, posypoo, electric flu, filinsam, crate, pinkfuzz, oh and malibuvodka

[metagirl]

if you are under 25 then you are probably just experimenting. I think its an unofficial requirement to have a homosexual experience while at Uni. have you been in love before?

[fee-is-me]

Yes, it IS possible, of course.

More to the point... what do YOU think? (And does it REALLY matter whether this is a phase or a life-long thang?!)

If you like it... do it. If you don't... er... don't.

[nat_84]

i agree with metagirl.

When i lasted a whole 3 montsh at Uni - grls usd to always kiss each other (i wasn't one of them, even though i was offered....).

i reckon ur just going through an experimental stagein ur life.

My friend's bi-sexual and apparently she knew she liked girls from Primary School!!

[4whatsername]

i dont know if i would say ive been in love. im 18 and dont believe in love intil like 21. most people would consider i have been in love in my position. I dont know if im going through a "phase" as people say most the time. I really doubt it because i think i always have had an attraction to girls(especially when im drunk, lol)in the back of my mind. I dont know

[redcrx]

hey 4get, redcrax sounds brilliant. might just change myself to that lol

[fee-is-me]

As nat said about one of her friends, she knew very early on.

I did, too, and it always seemed weird to me that other girls DIDN'T necessarily fancy girls! (I found that very confusing!)

To me it was as natural as fancying boys. You either know or you don't, and if you need to question it, then it IS probably a phase - be it a long or short one.

Don't get hung up on it, though, just enjoy it!

[Lore]

You don't believe in love until 21?
Falling in love isn't something we can control.

Can I ask why you find it easier to stick with guys? (no offence meant to any of our male members, I just wondered why it was easier!!)

[suffragette]

I am a bisexual female and have enjoyed sexual relationships with both men and women in the past.

In my case, my relationships with women have tended to be very short term and exciting sexual encounters between my longer relationships with men.

When I was married and became a mother, I did long for a female partner and was eventually divorced, but the same pattern of short term flings with women occurred once more and I found it increasingly frustrating.

I am now very close with my ex-husband once more and the sense of confusion is worrying. From my own personal experience, I have found my bisexual nature both exciting and frustrating in equal measure and envy people who express their sexuality as either straight or gay.

I wish I was a stronger individual and able to give you a more satisfactory and helpful answer. Sadly, I cannot, but I hope others are of more help to you.

[4whatsername]

thanx everyone, i think im going to go with fee-is-me. Im just going to go with how i feel and right now, and thats bi. If i change to straight then i change or maybe ill feel this way for the rest of my life. I just feel at times i have to label myself as one or the other. Also, what i meant about easier to stick with guys, i fell sometimes it is easier to stick with guys because me telling my best friend that i majorly thought i was bi was hard enough, she was shocked i dont know how everyone would react, but really i shouldnt not like a girl because its to hard to deal with. when it comes down to it people are just going to have to get over if i like a women. And i dont really believe in love before about 21. I feel people have to learn about themselfs before they can learn to love another person. thats just me. thanx again : )

[tictactoe]

OH! To be young again, and naive...

[Eric Git]

It sounds like you think that it is a wrong thing to do, to be with girls, a bit like living dangerously, a bit daring, especially as you feel more like this when you are drunk. A lot of us have done stuff when we're drunk that we'd only do when we're drunk, it's like are consequnce chip has taken a wlak and left us to it. If your feelings are just as strong when you're sober then probably you are Bi, if in five years you feel the same then I'd say that you were Bi. If it is only a recent thing then it probably is 'just a phase', just don't get hurt or hurt anyone else in the process.

[loobie]

Lol at ward~minter!!!!

[fee-is-me]

'NORMAL' isn't always best, W~M... don't ya know?!