Then by the sounds of it you really are better without 'em. As much as we'd all like our families to be like The Waltons, many times- sadly, they aren't.
We wouldn't suffer this upset and anguish that they can cause from friends, so why should you with family members? Especially if they aren't immediate family.
My heart goes out to you Angeldraws, you're obviously upset already and from what you've said, you'll only suffer more if you stay friendly with them just for the sake of it. Be civil, but nothing more.
And lol @ Mafia bit- as long a if you don't wake up with a horses head on ya pillow you'll be fine :-)