Questions/statement to ensure speed dating success

[SurreyGuy]

Hi folks

I'm going speed dating tonite and I'm sh***ing myself!

Does anyone have any SENSIBLE advice as to what I could ask or say to enhance my chances pls?

T.I.A.

[cascarelli]

Errr....'Do you come here often?'


Sorry, not very sensible huh? But then, speed dating.........

[Eve]

Be yourself and enjoy it, just remember everyone's probably feeling the same as you are :) Good luck! x

[raysparx1]

Relax, eye contact,smile, be interested in what they are saying, ask about them, what they do to relax etc, you will be fine,as jenna says all of the ones doing it will feel the same, good luck surrey.

[Surreygirl30]

Well if you like the person maybe compliment them on something - i have to be honest and say from what i have seen and from how you were when you mailed me, you seem to have a lot of things that put you off women. So maybe you should ask the questions that would make you knock someone back - reading your other post (from the other day) i see you knocked back a girl for not being local/driving - maybe that should be your first questions - are you local? and if not do you drive? Personally i think speed dating is probably the last place on earth you will find a nice girl - as who can honestly judge a persons personality in those few minutes. Anyway good luck x

[Pisceangirl]

Totally be yourself...your 'soulmate' wherever she (/he...don't like to presume!) is, will accept you for who you are, so trying to act any other way other than yourself won't get you far (it may get you laid though!). Ask general questions that they can elaborate on and chip in with a few quick things about yourself, like your hobbies and interests (if you play an instrument, your favourite film/music, where you've travelled...). Never been 'speed dating' but I assume that speed is an integral part of the experience which won't allow you to jabber on, SO make time for them to speak (women LOVE to talk and will appreciate if you can 'share' the allocated talk time and not just be on the receiving end of some bore talking about himself the whole time!). Good luck, have fun and keep an open mind. Also, try not to get your hopes up that you'll meet your perfect match...you may end up being disappointed. Just see it as a fun night out, relax and JUST BE YOURSELF! Then if you actually do hook up with someone, it will be a pleasant surprise! :)

[nat_84]

Be funny - women love someone that can make them laugh and they'll remember you.

[OBonio]

What things do you enjoy? Films.. ask them their favourite film, music, ask them their favourite album / band... and don't worry! What's the worst that can happen? You make an ass of yourself and never see these people again? Big deal...

[filthiestfis]

Hi Surreygirl :o) *waves* how are you again, sweet?

[SurreyGuy]

Thanks all.

surreygirl - I don't feel I have any more expectations/wants than anybody else.

My main criteria are I want to meet someone who :

a) can drive

b) doesn't smoke

c) is within about 25 miles of where I live

Can't anything wrong with any of those. I'm happy to discuss things with anyone, so if you want to do that with me, then that's fine.

What I will not put up with, however, is being slagged off in a publiuc forum (not necessarily saying that is what you have done) but people who don't even know me.

I'm a very nice, amiable, and "giving" person, but I'm not prepared to "sit back" and be slagged off.

[Surreygirl30]

eh??? lol i just said that is what you should ask, be it that you have set requirements - Christ you cant say anything in this place. i am NOT slagging you off - i am just saying how it is lol there are many things i don�t like in a guy - everyone has likes/hates - i just thought - save time and ask the questions that say what you want and if they are that then cool - stop being so ar$ey with me all the time xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[SurreyGuy]

surreygirl, I am NOT being arsey with you, trust me. Good grief, why is it when anybody defends themsleves on here, they get accused of "being arsey" or "being aggressive" - in fact I am neither of those!

You writing (above) "you seem to have a lot of things that put you off women" is wrong (you should read what some women on dating sites want/don't want in a guy!) and it WAS having a go at me. As you said, we all have our likes/dislikes.

Anyway, I've not come on here to argue with ANYONE, I just want to interact with nice people - of which 99.99% of people on here are (and that includes you, surreygirl xxxxxxx)

[Surreygirl30]

ok cool and hope you find a nice girl :-) post a msg tomorrow with how you got on. Lol where is it - i want to come and try and pull you pmsl. I will lie about the driving thing pmsl x

[SurreyGuy]

Thanks - BTW, if you'd read my original reply to you (above), I did actually say that I know YOU weren't slagging me off xxxx

So, where is it tonite? Not telling ya! :op anyway, I'm nervous now! :o)

[minimonkey]

i went speeddating tonight!! were you there? i hope not most of them were weird

[Surreygirl30]

How did it go and hope you got over the nerves � I think (as my dad also tells me) you try too hard. Maybe these things are just meant to happen when they happen lol anyway I am always here for a cyber kiss lol when you get desperate.

[SurreyGuy]

minimonkey - what town was it in?

surreygirl - Did you see my earlier response to you? xxxx I enjoyed it last night! Took me a little while to get over the nerves, but felt fine after that. I had to chuckled to myself when more than one woman said she was looking for someone who a) drives and b) lives local! :o)

I liked a few of the women - and no, I won't be saying how many result in "matches" :o)

I'd go again to one.

[Surreygirl30]

That is good to hear (so you pulled then) - it sounds like hell on earth to me though lol but hey i guess for me people would judge me on looks (weight) before they got to know me. Anyway, yes saw you reply before and ok cool - glad we are ok and that. I like you - hence why i bother to answer to your threads :-)

Lol at the questions you were asked � see at least I was right then in what you should ask ha ha � i was getting depressed last night talking to my mate. It seems everyone is taken � really couldn�t do the speed dating thing. What I find is that I know there are a couple of guys at work that give the �eye� but yet they never ever have na reason to talk to me as we work on different publications. How do you get pass the giving the eye thing? lol. xxxx

[SurreyGuy]

hi surreygirl - so you see, it WAS NOT unreasonable for me to want someone local and who drives which proves that thiose who berated me for it (not you hun) we're being unfair :o(

I wouldn't say I pulled - I'll know that if/when I get "matches" thru.

Right, you're "work predicament". Personally, I wouldn't want to get involved with anyone at work. It'd be ok all the time it is going well, but if you were to split up, I think it would cause uneasiness amongst a lot of people - I've seen that happen. Anyway..........................

when these guys "give you the eye", what do you do in response? As a guy I'd at least like to get a smile or a "hi" back.

[Surreygirl30]

oh i try to smile and then i go bright red and then start worrying that they are in fact looking at my dodgy skin or something. I dunno - as you say though never good to date someone from work. But i dont tend to meet any guys in everyday situations (well not nice normal guys) you tend to find its just the weird ones that want to chat you up in public lol. x

[SurreyGuy]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who blushes! Still, at least YOUR legs don't go to jelly! :o)

Have you tried any dating sites? I'm not saying they're "nutter-free" zones(!) as I've met my fair share of those, but at least there is a variety of people and you have the peace of mind of viewing/chatting in safety, i.e. at home.