If its love, then is distance a problem?

[Miss-read]

One for the men I would guess. So men, if you hadnt seen your girlfriend for weeks! and you worked away. And were tired of driving all week for work. Would you still make an effort and travel to see her this weekend. Or not bother, like mine has now decided!

[raysparx1]

Yes I would travel to see my Girlfriend/wife, I have done in the past, it should not be an effort or a chore,it should be a pleasure.

[Miss-read]

Ray, I am now thinking if its such an effort, for him, then maybe, I should take the hint, that he really doesnt want to see me :(

You sound like a lovely man.

[jno]

depends just how tired he is. If he feels too tired to drive and see you, it's probably wise not to; no point in risking falling asleep at the wheel. (But could he have caught a train?)

[druiaghtagh]

Of course he should travel, its as Ray says, he should be missing you after weeks, if he cant be bothered find someone else who will treat you like a lady.Geoff.

[Dassie]

Agreed. Isn't the saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" applicable here? Obviously not ! If he doesn't like driving, there are cheap flights/trains/buses/National Express coaches or a combination of them to get you to most places. I sure you wouldn't mind picking him up at the station if you also drive. If he's so tired then what's to stop him sleeping on the train etc on the way? If he can't be bothered, next time it's your turn and then see how he likes it!

[WendyS]

I'm a female, and probably a little older than Miss-read, and I know absolutely that if my husband had been working away and driving all week, however much I wanted to see him, my main concern would be that he didn't exhaust himself with a long journey, making him more vulnerable to a car accident. If he felt able to do the journey I would be delighted, But keeping him safe and not over-exhausting himself would be my highest priority, even if it meant the disappointment of not seeing him. So don't necessarily judge him too harshly. He may be genuinely very tired.

[RATTER15]

Ive been there, done it, always been home for the weekend without fail!! Unless he is unwell, I would say it is unlikely he feels so tired that he cant drive home to see you, but I could be wrong.

My advice would be, cut him some slack this time and see how it goes, phone him a few times over the weekend and see if he answers the phone and if he seems as comfortable about his absence, particularly in the evenings.

[raysparx1]

Hi, I think whar RATTER has said makes sense,give him the benefit of the doubt this time,but if it happens a few times,well maybe a talk to each other is needed,hope it goes well for you,good luck, Ray

[newtron]

I currently live in the UK and my wife lives in the USA. We see eachother on average every 4 to 6 months. If I could afford to go see her more often, I defintely would. So to answer your question, I would make an effort to se her no matter how tired I was.

[Miss-read]

Thanks all.

He actually didnt say he was tired from driving all week. I just assumed that the was the reason he didnt want to see me.

We have not seen each other since August. So think its time I took the hint! :(

The miserable git