Friends, Who need them?

[4getmenot]

I have just started visiting this girl who is the younger sister of one of my closest mates. I only started being friends with her because she was moving to town and didn't know anyone but we get on really well. I have been mates with her sister for years and always get her sister out where as I only visit the new friend at her home. Now I was supposed to be going out with my mate to a wedding Saturday and the younger sister knew this because when she asked if I could baby-sit I explained I was going to wedding with her sister. But yesterday my mate cancelled saying that her sister had asked her to babysit. This annoyed me a bit but little sis said she didn't realise I was going with her big sis. But annoyed me more that big sis knew she was coming to a wedding with me. Anyway she found out that her sis had asked me to babysit first and got annoyed. And now she's says she doesn't like me being friends with her sister. Now I have known the big sister the longest but I have just found a really good friend in the younger one. I said that but the big sis said she doesn't like it and that her sister is sly about our friendship and says things. What do I do?

[bunnysam]

jeeeeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzzz woman, im confused, lol. sorry cant help xxxx

[bunnysam]

oh its my stylinsam! they banned me AGAIN!!!

[4getmenot]

and I'd understand I favoured the lil sis over my mate but I dont. I dont discuss them to eachother and its not like they hate eachother anyway, I just like to be mates with everyone.

[4getmenot]

Oh sam you minx

[bunnysam]

right iv read the Q properly now, it seems to me that its the sisters who have the problem here not you, tell them both you want to be friends with both of them and they cant make you choose, then i think you should let them get on with it to be honest! xx

[redcrx]

sorry, i got a bit lost in the middle somewhere. I hope its not me and little sis youre talking about lol (youre not babysitting for me tomorrow are you??)

anyway, it sounds to me like pure jealousy between the two sisters. Like fighting over toys, they want to argue about friends. Bit childish really.

You should decide for yourself who you see and when and let them grow up a bit.

[PinkFizz]

It sounds that they both want you to themselves - so I guess that is a compliment to you as you must be a pretty good friend.

I would try and talk to them .Tell the older one that you like the younger one because she is so like her big sis,and then tell the younger one that you like older sis her because she is so like her baby sis!!

Then say that as they are both so great you want to keep them both as friends.!!

[Pippa68]

They do sound like a couple of kids. You see who you want to see ~ if they want to fight about it let them know that you are keeping out of it and want to be mates with both of them. If they don't like it they can sod off :o)

[-Zorro-]

sammi...are you a playboy bunny

[bunnysam]

zorro il be whatever you want me to be ;oP

[spk]

They sound like two dogs fighting over a bone. Let them sort it out amongst themselves try not to get upset about it x

[Pippa68]

Sam ~ why did you get banned, hunny?

[bunnysam]

pippa i dont no sweetie, they always do it to me!! ;o(

[4getmenot]

Thanks I guess I am quite popular :-) but its only the older sister (my mate) has said it, the younger sister doesn�t seem bothered and hasn�t said a word. I told my mate I�m sorry she feels like that, but I would never leave her out and that whatever she tells me in confidence stays that way. Its just with her saying the little sis says things to her I�m not sure who to believe, I take people as I find and basically neither have done or said anything bad to me. I�m too old to be having to choose who I�m friends with. I don�t treat them any different to what I did before as I only saw my mate at weekends or on nights out and the little sis I see through the week as she has children. I think it annoys her sometimes that I say things to lil sis and because she is such a motor mouth she says things to big sis before I get a chance to tell her for myself.

[teag1rl]

Hi 4getmenot.
I think the lil sis possibly is being a bit sly. From what I read you told her you were going to wedding with her big sis. Anyway, it's not very friendly of big sis to cancel wedding with you just cos her lil sis asked her to babysit either is it? Leave them to sort it out. You've done nothing wrong.

[4getmenot]

I did say and lil sis says she had no idea I was going with big sis. But who knows. its no problem to me, and if they push me away because of this fighting over me its their loss