Help! Man dilema!!!!

[sam100]

Perhaps someone could help me out with this one...just started seeing a guy in the last two weeks....three months ago he came out or a relationship which he had been in for 4 yrs..his ex was sleeping around behind his back and they kept splitting up.
Anyway, 3 months ago they splitt up properly and she went off with another man.
Now him and I have started a relationship together which has progressed quite fast and she is back on the sceen blackmailing him and begging to get back together...He doesnt really want her and he knows a leopard doesnt change its spots but how can i compete with someone that has known him for 4 years?

Also do you think he has been unfair to me for starting a relationship with me when he may go back to his ex?

At the moment he says he is confused and i have not been in contact with him since last night as i am trying to give him space.

[Presario]

Awww, how horrible!!!!!

You really shouldn't see it like you're competing, if he wanted to be with her then they would not have broken up and he would not have started a realtionship with you.

I don't think he has been unfair by starting a realtionship with you as it doesn't seem like he wants his ex back,

Just call him and ask him who and what he wants. I hope it works out for you x

[crete]

sam, i wonder why he is saying he is confused that might make me feel i bit concerned, whats he confused about ?

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i dont think you can compete with someone he has been with for the last 4 years Sam.They will know each other real well. I think 2 months is a little soon also for him to 'get over' her. If it was an amicable split, it might have been ok, but he obviously still loves her with his comment that he is 'confused'. In other words, its a nice way of letting you down...

[sam100]

Thanks everyone. Think he is consfused because the ex is using blackmail to try and get him back!

Him & I were fine this week and were talking about our future and all of a sudden she starts begging and he getts funny with me and calls us of!..weird!

Thanks for the replies so far...really appreciated!