Advice to a friend 2

[druiaghtagh]

On Thursday i posted a question re a very good female friend and work colleague of mine aged 35, i am a 55 year old male S he has found out her long term partner has been cheating, naturally she is devastated. Thanks to wolf63 for reply, i was hoping for a few more answers as i dont know what to do to help her as i am really upset for her, she has since decided to take him back, i know its not my buisness but she is worth 10 of him and i dont want to see her hurt anymore, any ideas anyone what i can say to her apart from follow your heart?

[bednobs]

i dont think you can say anything useful really. It has probably been a heart rending decision for her. if you tell her she could do better, she wont thank you, if you support her decion and it goes tits up she wont thank you either I would say the best think would be to let her get on with it

[Ethel]

The best thing you can do is give her the chance to talk without fear of criticism.

Let her speak honestly and frankly, keep your opinions to yourself while acknowledging how difficult things are for her, and never say 'I told you so'.

[Roughquest]

Difficult one this is, your support lies with your friend of whom you dont like seeing hurt, understandibly. BUT she must feel very deeply for him to give the relationship another chance, please support her decision and as a true friend try not to judge - just be there for her whatever the outcome may be.

[Cheekystar]

I think she should follow her head on this one not her heart.

[bloaterbum]

Very wise Ethel .Iknow it is hard Ihave been through divorce and slagged my wife off somethingg rotten to my mom and she said precisely nothing .Even nowshe won't say a word against her .
listen ,yes and be supportive ,but never judge.it is mighty difficut but she won't thank you for it.In fact if you are a charmer she may eventually fall for you .It does happen when the pennny finally drops and she kicks him out of her life for good.in the meantime doesn't it make you mad all these wallies aout wrecking lives!

[chicklin]

All you can do is be supportive in whatever decision she decides to take, listen to what she has to say and be there for her if it all goes pear-shaped. Sounds like you're already doing that so just keep on doing more of the same. If this man turns over a new leaf, then it may work out, and this is probably what she's hoping for. But if not then there won't be a happy ending and that's when she'll be so glad you're there for her. You sound like a good friend.

[generationga]

im not sure why you invole yourself in THEIR relationship,you can be her friend without passing judgement .so many relationships consist of 1 parter being better than the other thats all people ever say,let it be if it goes wrong again atleast she knows she has a friend in you .
pluss her partner is proberly that she has an older man who proberly finds her attractive around her