Is this a date?

[sallycroc]

I have been away for the past year...before I went away I met a guy. We got on great, instant chemistry.

We swapped numbers and he text me when I was away.

I'm now back in the country and he suggested meeting up. Anyway, so we've arranged to go out on Thursday. He still hasn't told me where we are meeting.

Shall I just wait for Thursday and presume we are going out?

Last year I started reading "the rules" which I know are not always right...

what do people think?

Also what do people think of the rules?

[4getmenot]

what are the rules, and a dates a date, if you're meeting up thats a date surely even if with just a friend

[redcrx]

theres no such thing as rules.
meet up with him and have a great evening and then see what happens.

[China Doll]

There are 'rules'?! Can you tell me what they are please Sally and I'll tell you what I think!

[sallycroc]

well in the book "the rules" people say that if a date place and time hasnt been confirmed - it shows he isnt that bothered...

Maybe he's just planning? Anyway I've text him. Whats the latest I should wait?

[Eve]

It's a book...there seem to be loads of them about now.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Complete-Book-Rules-Ev erything-Capture/dp/0722539746/sr=1-12/qid=116 3507700/ref=sr_1_12/202-6912263-4600604?ie=UTF 8&s=books

Don't worry about them hon, just go with the flow and do things in your own way.

I'd see nothing wrong with texting him to check such as times and place or such so you can make sure you're sorted in plenty of time and can dress accordingly.

Meet up and if it's right it'll happen, maybe not right away but don't worry, be yourself and enjoy :)

Good luck xxx

[MrBen5]

Hmmm...i think you should stop reading silly books and go with your instinct. If you wanna go out with him, then just text him back and ask him where. Dont be holding off for days and all that rubbish. I think the majority of people would rather people be straight with them and come out with any issues they may feel they have...

[sallycroc]

I don't want him to think I'm so keen...but then he did suggest meeting up...

So does anyone have any opinions on "the rules"

Although they are very old fashioned..

[4getmenot]

A book! Oh dear just take it as it comes. No one ever goes by lifes rules :-)

[Eve]

Not read them and don't intend to.

Went on a date with a guy who'd read them and was going on about them and how you weren't meant to do this and that and how you are or aren't meant to do things and all sorts.

Put me right off. I want a boyfriend, not a robot with a manual :)

[sophieb]

OMG! Rules!!! Do the people who write these books think that the average person is not capable of running their own lives/relationships without a bl00dy manual!!!!

[sallycroc]

"the rules" is a relationship book - and it says stuff like ladies shouldn't chase after men,,,

its tuesday and we are meeting Thursday...he hasnt text back -

if he hasnt text back by wednesday what shall I do? I can't keep texting and hassling him!

[redcrx]

text now and ask him what the plan is and you need to decide what to wear.

[MrBen5]

yeah, i agree with redcrx. text now and ask him if you need to fetch any protection, or is he gonna get it...

[sallycroc]

but does anyone understand why I'm anxious...I'm just worried that he'll think I'm desperate..

and of course worried why he hasnt got back to me...

[MrBen5]

Dont worry about what other people think. If you want an answer to anything, ask the question...

[redcrx]

when you arranged to go out thursday what exactly was the arrangement?

[sallycroc]

Just that we'll meet Thursday...

so then yesterday I text him, just to see where to meet?

I'm still waiting for response...

I asked him where to meet - so in a way I've made him decide and plan...

any thoughts people?

sally x

[sallycroc]

I'm now thinking maybe he doesn't want to meet - thats why he hasn't got back to me...

Then he wouldn't have arranged to meet me in the first place. He's 31 so its not as if he's a teenager!!

Gosh I'm a bit panicky! Which must mean I like him?

[chicklin]

Right - He wouldn't have arranged to see you Thursday if he didn't want to. You texting him back to ask where is not making you look desperate - its just saving you both from wasting hours aimlessly wandering about in the hope you may both end up in the same place before Thursday is over. Stop worrying and if the worst comes to the worst and you don't hear from him, make your own arrangements and go out with a friend, don't wait in for him. As for the 'rules' - Make your own.

[sallycroc]

Thanks Chicklin,,,very honest!

So what is the latest I should leave it? If he gets in touch thursday do I still go?

Sally x