so called mate

[havinmysay]

i am so p***d off right now i suppose to have been going out with my mate on sat we havnt been out in ages so were really looking foward to it this afternoon she sent me a msg meant for someone else these are her words... im already goin out but wud rather go out with u i'll try and get out of it and i'll let u no bearing in mind this wasn't meant for me but was about me so basically she was gonna tell me she cant go out then go out with someone else. i thought she were my best mate now iv seen her true colours. what do i do now xx

[Flossy3]

I would reply to her text with something like 'dont think this was meant for me - take it you want to cancel sat night - fine with me!' - just so she knows you know. You may well have the wrong end of the stick and it could well be that she was talking about a different sat night etc but I think you should at least let her know you know.

[havinmysay]

flossy- iv said all that and she had the nerve to have a go at me coz she were givin me pathetic excuses but she even asked how this persons son was so it were obviosly about me

[makemesmile]

I'd be pretty p***d off too! But try not to go off the deep end. Inform her, calmly, of her mistake and ask her for an explaination. She could have been spooning it on a bit thick to the other person, to let them down gently, you never know. Either way, give her a chance to explain. But maybe it's time to widen your circle of friends. Good luck : )

[makemesmile]

Sorry, didn't see your reply - I'd give her a wide berth for a bit

[havinmysay]

iv done more than that iv deleted her number
also told her she is 2 faced

[Captain Swab]

Better off not having her around any more. Terrible behaviour.

[Eve]

Smack the cow!!!!

Sorry...venting!!

On a more me note...don't, i'm sorry hon, that's a really crap thing to happen.

Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt as she could have been just trying to put the friend off nicely and be planning to pull out. Or it could be a new guy or something. Still not great but may be something you could talk about and sort out.

[saxy_jag]

Don't do anything else. Just sit on it for now and bide your time. Don't get in touch, and if she gets in touch with you, make like that's really no big deal. Don't go out of your way for her - if she wants to see you, then you set the time and place.
In short, ignore her - she's no friend to you if this is how she's prepared to treat you. I rather feel she's using you for when there's no-one else.

Meantime, get out and find yourself some real friends.

[bloaterbum]

Welcome to reality .When my mates missus is around he never phones , jack sh44t and all of a sudden loose end time. iknow he thinks Iwill phone that c66t.
the yforget the times when they were crying on your step cus the old missus dumped em in a terrrible fashion.
that's life Iam afraid there ain't many genuins folks about.

[jump79]

Was the text msg intended for another friend or her bf? Because if it was her bf, well that's understandable ...

If it was another friend though, then I'd be hurt too but maybe this incident will give her time to think about what she did and apologize (and mean it). If she's a true friend she'll care enough to call back to apologize and arrange to meet up with you again.

[EDLEE]

Read the answers about true friends. If you can't forgive her, how close could you have been?

[ummmm]

Are you Ok?

[havinmysay]

im ok thanks if your asking me just hurt and shocked

EDLEE if it was something really petty then yes i could forgive but she's not even tried to appoligise she has just said more hurtful things.i dont think we could be friends anymore as i now no what shes thinking and saying about me

[Champagne]

At the very least friends should be able to phone up and say they don't fancy going out. It might not have pleased you but at least she'd have been honest about it.

Thing is, friends also need to make the effort. Just because she's all cosy in her life doesn't mean she can sit back and abandon her mates and then pick up with them again if her life takes a bad turn. The sad truth is that there are quite a few people like this.

My best friend also did it to me. Her marriage fell apart and then she was in turmoil over her new guy, all around the same time. I was there for her and she practically moved in with me for a while. Then things were hunky dory with her new guy and I was ditched in a flash. I barely see her now. But I moved on. I have plenty of other friends who don't do that sort of thing.

You're better off with like-minded friends. x