Teenagers........ Bed Wetting?

[kat2206]

I have a lovely 15yr old son, he used to bed wet frequently as a young child and especially when I, unfortunately, was the victim of spousal abuse. I have been apart from that relationship now since 2001. I have now started a new relationship, about 18 months we have been together and recently moved in together, my son has started wetting the bed again. I havent spoken to him about it as i know he would be mortified, especially at his age, but what i can do to prevent this and make him understand its ok....? my heart goes out to him at the minute but i just dont know what to do.

[Pea Pod]

Tell him that changes in life affect us all even if it is subconsciously.Some of us have dreams or nightmares and some of us wet the bed.It is natures way of dealing with everyday stuff when we are asleep. Would he consider wearing a continence pad, not ideal but one solution.

[kwicky]

But its not OK to wet the bed and probably he feels very guilty about it although being unable to control it. You may be able to help him by suggesting practical things to do. Obviously a waterproof mattress cover is essential. Then refrain from liquids some hours before bedtime. If this does not work suggest a trip to the doctor who will probably refer him to a counsellor to discover what is giving him so much stress. It may be that the problem is physical which means treatment will be offered.

[scruffscat]

You have my sympathy, is everythin ok at school its such a difficult age with course work an stuff-the pressure is really on my 15 year old at the mo.maybe you should ask him if that the prob.best of luck to you bothxx

[kwicky]

http://www.growingkids.co.uk/BedWetting.html

[kat2206]

Hi and thank you for your answers, he was having a few problems at school with some people bullying him which has now been sorted. I still think there might be a problem physically though, I have tried talking gently to him about his wet bedclothes and he just tells me to shush and changes the subject. I have now bought him a mattress protector but I shall put it on his bed when he is at school so he doesnt get embarrassed, I have spoken to my doctor about it and he does want to see my son, apparently a nasal spray works.... but I know for sure my son wouldnt go to the doctors especially if he wont talk to me about it.

[punkypink]

Hi I'm a school nurse and this is a common problem, once you have ruled out any concerns he may have, and dealt with what you can, it would be a positive move if he could see his G.P.
You don't have to be with him, he can book his own appointment, see a male doc etc, and the nasal spray can be very effective.

He should see the G.P to rule out any infections etc. This can make you incontinent.

He could also see the school nurse at one of her drop in sessions if he felt able to, it is in total confidence.

I wish you well

[kat2206]

Hi and thank you all for your kind responses. Now that the bullying issue is sorted we have had the last 3/4 nights dry.