unsociable

[fruitsalad]

i have never been one to want to be around lots of people but as i get older i seem to be getting more and more unsociable, and of course i do realise that as i get older i will probably need people around me more than ever. i make excuses not to go out when invited and have even started to avoid people i know when im out so i dont have to stand and natter wot on earth is the matter with me?

[joko]

try a remedy called 'connect' - from health food stores

and also get some rescue remedy

[prattler]

are you spending too much time in cyberworld by any chance?? dont worry, you are going through a phase probably.i have done this the past few years, and couldnt be arsed socialising for a while.then i found that when i made new friends through a college course, i just needed new friends!my life had become stagnant , and although i loved my old friends, i made new ones via my college course, a new direction etc.i have finally got a taste for going out again, it passed eventually.i am someone who has some close friends rather than loads of social friends-thats just me and it suits.its only when it gets to a certain level you have to worry.that means shutting yourself away in a room etc. and not talking to anyone

[Ctrak]

I'd give a proper and detailed answer, but, see, commitments have cropped up, really can't speak to you now, really unfortunate, sorry...got to go.

Bye

[fruitsalad]

no prattler only in cyberworld for a few hours in the evening, and have always been the type who only wanted 2 or 3 close friends even at school, do tend to like my own company but i just seem to be getting worse, but i also realise that it cant be a good thing to be like this.

[Ctrak]

More seriously- yes, I can be like this and to be honest, the key isn't so much to break the loop as to just smash it. It's f***ing hard but just go out once, or accept one invitation, and that sorts it.

[Eve]

I can be a bit like that, I have a large number of friends and am a very sociable person but love my own space and am quite content in my own company. I tend to have loads of different friends rather than a particular group so I get to pick and choose who i see when.

With me i think it harks back to the fact that my parents are not very social people at all, our place is not the kind of place people ever came round and my parents don't really ever go out or have friends as such. I've also moved around a lot, 4 different places and over 20 different homes so I don't naturally tend to settle with a group of people. Even family wise I only tend to see my father and other relatives once a year and haven't seen my brother for 2 years. It's something i'm just used to though so it doesn't really tend to bother me as such.

If it's bothering you though then maybe you've got a bit depressed and it may be worth having a chat with your GP about things.

[Pea Pod]

We could form a club, but then we wouldn`t want to meet up. I am the same. My neighbour thinks I`m mad because I don`t like going out. My husband is away all wee k and I resent him coming home. I dread xmas because he`s off 2 weeks and the family are appearing. Lets just say we are the normal ones.

[Dassie]

Perhaps like me you're just getting fed up with the inane banter you know that's coming your way if you stand and chat. e.g. The Weather.........Fred's joint pain.......the Grandson's birthday party.........what the doctor said ..... Quite frankly WHO CARES ! People just don't talk about interesting subjects anymore because they'd be labelled politically incorrect, racist etc etc.

[Scylax]

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert.

It's the poor old extraverts who need help; they can't
live with themselves, and continually need outside
stimulation.

There used to be a song : 'People who need people,
are the luckiest people in the world'. Codswallop, of
course - the luckiest people are those who need
nobody. Fancy being always dependent on other
people's attention......yuk.