hheelllppp!!!!

[jojo79]

hello everyone its my first time on ere n i need help?? im supposed to be getting married nxt year(way hey!!) but i have a prob with one thing or another mine and my fiance's family are kind of at war they dont see eye to eye but family is really important to me and im now worried about the coming wedding because i cant see any of them coming what do i do do i sit back and let them fight it out amongst themselves or do i try get them all to be reasonable with one another...me and my fiance are very happy together but none of my family can see this its mainly my side of the family causing the bother i get on really well with his side but i was in a really bad relationship before this 1 so now they feel they have a right to run my life if you know what i mean?? but i just dont no what to do.bottom line is my family dont think my fiance is good enough,but i love him to bits?? please help?

[crete]

gretna green , im not joking , just go and get married and forget the family

[jojo79]

thanx for that i'm beginning to come round to that idea!!

[crete]

jojo im being really serious , the last thing you need on your wedding day is the fear of family arguing, its you and your partners day so enjoy.

[curly-milf]

why not get married abroad, a nice carribean island, expensive i know, but probably cheaper than what it would cost you here, you can always have a celebration party here when you get back...

[saxy_jag]

There's something romantic about eloping, and loads of places to elope to (planned though it may be). Perhaps you could enlist the support of a couple of good friends to act as witnesses and make it a little more special.

When you get back, tell your families that you will have a 'do' only on condition they behave themselves. If they don't, then you just walk out and leave 'em to it.

[jojo79]

awww thanx loads for all your advice it's not gonna be the same without them all there i thought my family were quite close but i've learned loads these past few weeks and i'm totally shocked at things there saying...but i think that my best bet is like ya all said....to go away...whatever happens i no it'll be a great day whatever,thanx loads again!!!

[Fish the Mod]

I can see why the others are saying run away but why not write a note in the invitations explaining the following:this is our day, we have a choice, we are going to party and have fun or you bunch of ******* can fight and we will never forgive you, the choice is yours. I have chosen the person to marry because i love him, we may be divorced in a year or hopefully until death do us part. I amnot a mind reader, so weather you agree with this wedding or not, I want the closest people that I love supporting me on my special day. If you do not agree with the wedding then I will understand ifyou decline the invite, if you love this family all I ask is to make our day a special one.
Love JoJo and ?

[raysparx1]

This is your day,and nobody has the right to spoil it,tell your family in no uncertain terms that if they cannot respect your choice then they can stay away, I sort of had this crap with my in laws, so we paid for our own weddding and invited who we wanted,plan the wedding around what you want not what your family think is best for you, if the crap continues do as crete says and just go off and get married on your own, good luck, Ray

[vehelpfulguy]

My wife and I went to the registry office and said when is your next free slot.

They said Wednesday week, so we booked it.

We went home and told our families we were getting married in just over a week.

No time for family arguments or months of planning and so on.

Just book it up and do it.

[jojo79]

thanx so much for all the great advice spesh to fish for mod thats a brill idea might actually do that now,send um all a letter see what i get back if they still being really nasty about things and it dont look like they gonna come anyway then...gretna green here we come we could just go there and do it then come back and let um know the happy news!!!!!and hey..i still get to wear my dress!!!lol no its not just about that is it...at the end of the day as long as me and my partner are there i spose no one else matters....god....families eh??

[Dumbo#1]

Hello - congratulations by the way! To be honest, I would say go abroad like in other suggestions - it's what we did...we were married in Las Vegas and I would recommend it 100%! Also, if you want you family to attend perhaps you could say that everyone is welcome...and if they really want to go they will pay for the trip themselves - a trip paid for by them...I can assure you they will all think twice before ruining a holiday they have paid for out of their own money! It's a perfect destination for everyone to really have a great carefree trip and a holiday to remember - for all the RIGHT reasons. Good luck.