What is a decent number?

[badgerchops]

Ok guys, You have started seeing a new woman and it comes down to the number question of how many sexual partners she has had prior to you. (obviously all of them crap compared to you naturally) :-)

What would be a decent number to you and what would make you think she was a Ho ?

For argument sake, we shall say this woman is late twenties.

[chicklin]

I know I'm not a guy but I bet the answer will be 'any number is ok as long as its less the theirs' (and preferably can be counted on one hand.)

Their score is irrelevant.

[chicklin]

That should have been 'than theirs' Ooops!

[samuel23]

More than Mother Theresa but less than Devine Brown.
Seriously? Double figures would be OK but after more than 12 I'd start to wonder Hmmmmmm

[Slooow_Jo]

I dont believe the question should be asked in the first place!

& no that doesn't mean I'm a 'Ho' as you so charmingly put it lol

[ConfusedMum]

i aint a bloke but i had to answer! haha

12? that isn't alot at all. i say around 20-30.

late twenties she is about 25-29. say she started having sex at around 15-16 (not too far off the mark these days that is it really?) that would make it between 1 - 4 people a year - that aint a lot of people at all, i don't think anyway. i hope i worked my maths out right haha - probally not though knowing me lol!

xXx

[##Wardy##]

It is weird that say she is 28, probably be sexually active for 12 or so years. 1 partner every 3 months (thats 24-26 Fri/Sat nights out will tally her up to nearly 50 which sounds a lot. If you use my calcualtions 1 pull in 26 nights out is fairly lame to most women.

[samuel23]

Ok I wasn't making any judgements, badgerchops asked what would be a decent number and that's my opinion.
However after reading the replies, I would be concerned if it was as high as 30 ~ I'd wonder what's whats wrong with her? Why has she had so many partners?
ConfusedMum ~ You say 4 a year ( a new sleeping partner every three months that's one every 13 weeks!) so that implies there hasn't been a long term partner ~ Two words ALARM BELLS!!! either she has a problem with commitment or she's easy. I'd be sure to wait a while before I took the plunge with her. STDs are very prevelant among those with a high percentage of partners per annum.

[Gevs1966]

Why does it matter? What is in the past is in the past, why bring it up? If you like each other and want to be together then you wouldn't give a toss if it was 5 or 55 partners.

[ummmm1]

Doesnt everyone lie about it anyway

[ConfusedMum]

if that works out at a new one every 13weeks - then that means she has a few weeks to get to know em before she hops into bed with them really doesn't it - therefor she aint easy. maybe she has common sense also and realises relationships aint worth the hassell? lol! :D

xXx

[Pippa68]

The number is irrelevant ~ Mr P knows I have slept with more people than he has (not difficult considering he has 'only' slept with 3 in his lifetime). He doesn't know how many, he has never asked and doesn't need or want to know...

[liquidspace]

Well Im 40 and Ive had 12 different sexual partners in total.

[badgerchops]

Thats why i put the age, because that is a signifant factor.

[tigga]

I wouldnt ask as the question will only get bounced back.

[noxlumos]

Doesn't matter. They could all be one night stands, recreational sex, who don't mean a damned thing. Doesn't matter if it's into treble figures to be honest. Once you meet the one and find someone you love and want to commit to then that'll be it. If you want someone with the same morals as you have then you need to make this clear at the VERY beginning, because tbh how many partners she had prior to you is none of your business. Relax, it's irrelevant and a high number does not make a woman a "Ho", just someone secure in their own sexuality.

[badgerchops]

yeah right noxlomos, you seriously think a saggy holed woman with triple figured conquests is marriage material.

[Pippa68]

On the contrary badgerchops.

It has been scientifically proven that the more sex a woman has the more exercised, toned and tightened she becomes. It is more likely to be the women who don't have much sex that are 'saggy holed'!

[noxlumos]

Badgerchops, you've just underlined why you had to ask such an inane question in the first place, and can you tell me how a woman whose had say 100 partners over ten years is going to be any more "saggy holed" than a woman who'd been with the same man for ten years?
I've never felt the need to ask anyone as I'm quite secure in myself, although my wife and I whilst talking once divulged she'd had 22 previous partners.
Was I upset or pleased? No because as stated before it was before I met her, she's wonderful and it's none of my business. It shows a controlling nature and a lack of respect for your partner's privacy and it'll send women running from you like greyhounds.