Affairs

[Roughquest]

Does anyone know of any 'success' stories - whereby the married man/woman has actually left their respective partners to be with the person they started having an affair with - whatever the circumstances? I know that majortiy of married people who embark on affairs DO NOT leave their partners no matter what.....

[DottyH]

How exactly would that be a success story? from who's point of view? oh you mean the divorce lawyer don't you?

[Panic Button]

Richard And Judy?

[ummmm1]

My ex and his current wife

[gingersticks]

My dad left my mum for his bitch. Just got married. Lovely woman...

[gingersticks]

Oo thats a polite way to put it. Trust me

[spurslady]

My uncle left his wife for the babysitter who was also her bestfriend. They got married have given me two more extra cousins to add to the son he had before and have been together for about 17 years now.

[Roughquest]

Gingersticks - I know what you mean, but at the end of the day it takes 2 to tango......not fair placing 'blame' if you can call it that - all on the 'bitch'.

[Goodsoulette]

My dad left my mum for his 26 yr old woman on the side, they are still together 10 yrs on and I am guessing they were seeing each other for a few years before he did that. Success story, hmm, they are both happier now but there was a lot of upset for everyone over the years.

[silverdaler]

my sister has been married successfully for 17 yrs now. they are so much more suited to each other than their previous partners. sadly, his own family sided with his ex and have never really accepted my sister.

[gingersticks]

I know roughquest, but i just can't place the blame on my dad. I was always a daddy's girl!

[~max~]

Well, I've got one, call it what you want...lol

My friend just told me tonight that he's going to be a dad. The mother to be is his "girlfriend". He has a wife in another country who knows about the cheating, but was gobsmacked at the "baby" thing. He went to visit her this xmas, and apparently they are now getting divorced. May I menton that he actually cheated on the girlfriend with me....before I knew about her,and the wife! Some guys are just so wonderful....lol

[unruliejulie]

roughquest, my Mum has not long celebrated her 20th wedding anniversary with the man she left my Dad for. Sucess???? well, it left a few casualties in its wake but yes, very sucessful and she had lots of reasons for doing what she did. It is never all black and white.
Also, my brother left his wife for one of his best friends wife's! Now that did cause some trouble but they have been happily married for 10 years and have 2 beautiful children.
Families eh????lol

[E B]

My husband had been having an affair for over a year before I found out (10 days before xmas 2 yrs ago, xmas has not been right for me since). He only left me after I asked him to go twice, and cos it became too much for me. I asked him what would have happened if I had not been told and he said that he would have finished with her and I would never have known.

Since then he has said several times that he wanted to finish with her but she would not leave him alone, he said that she is too clingy for him and they argue alot. She buys him clothes, paid for him to go on two holidays etc. He wont move in with her nor does he want a devorce.

He will never stay faithful to her, he has even been seeing me (if you know what I mean) without her knowledge. I put an end to that, he can't have both and I won't share, everyone thinks that he is mad staying with her, but no-one will say anything to him, its thought that someone is better than no-one. We had been together for over 20 years, three daughters together and a lovely home, we had a good marriage until she came along - he lost everything.

He changed alot since he met her (for the worse) everyone noticed, but it was a while before people knew why.

There is no such thing as a 'sucess story' as many people get hurt for the sake of sex with another, especially children, it has long lasting consequences on them. The closest thing to a sucess story would be if the wonderer makes good his marriage/partnership.

[unruliejulie]

E B i sympathise with you, i honestly do and i hope you are now moving on and life is getting better for you. I have to say though that its not always about just sex but often its about love which obviously runs a lot deeper. We fall out of love with people, its as simple as that but i think, that if we do we should have the guts to leave that person as soon is possible and allow them to start moving on with their life, but yes, you are right, it does leave casualties and even though i am totally happy with my own Mums situation now, it does still hurt when i think back to the pain it caused at the time, but in all honesty, i am a strong believer in the fact that we dont get long on this earth so if the marriage isnt happy and you fall in love with someone else, then i think its best for all in the long run if it ends. My parents stayed together for a while after her affair was discovered trying to make the marriage work but to be honest, the day she left for good, when i was 11, i felt a tremendous amount of relief. It was a horrid time and i wish she had just left when she needed to.