internet date

[geminij]

3 days before christmas i started taling to someone online, i was instantly drawn to him we seemed to hve a lot in common, by xmas eve we had swapped mobile numbers and were texting all xmas day, and have since text each other an obsessive amount each day, we met once and then he went on nights and said he'd phone me every night, he did apart from friday, on friday the text seemed to change and there were less, i felt so comfortable with him up to now i agreed to spend saturday in with him babysitting for his granddaughter (we are in our late 30's. )we didnt talk much and both drank, it got late and when i said i was going to use the bathroom he said lets go to bed, i did, and he fell asleep on the settee, when he did come to bed we kissed and cuddled, (id already made it clear to soon for sex) he was as lovely as ever in the morning, i text him when i got home as its quite far, but have heard nothing since, he seems to have taken a step back, I did expect to eventually text each other less, but not this soon .what do i do now?? i have messed so many relationships up in the past i dont want to do it again, up until friday, everything felt so right and now i dont know thanks

[coco clown]

peoples feelings change over night?

perhaps he just thought " NAH, she aint for me"

[geminij]

by the way he did answer my text saying id got home ok

[sleepyj]

granddaughter and hes in hes 30 god hope im not grandmother till im 50 odd

[geminij]

me too!! he is 38

[sleepyj]

just text him and ask whats up .put your mind at rest

[geminij]

sleepyj i did that friday when he didnt call. ill go back a bit, on thursday i text when i went to bed like i had done while he had been working nights, he answered saying i was quiet and was i having second thoughts, i said definitely not and couldnt wait to see him. then friday i got messages but they werent as warm and no phone call, i text sayin missed your call is everything ok, he text a couple of times then phoned, on sat he said he was ill, but to stll come round if i wanted to, i did

[pollycupcake]

geminij, I just think men dont communicate as much as women do

[DottyH]

maybe he is low on credit and budgeting

[coco clown]

i dont want any stars!

[caz247]

hi geminij

i am in a similar situation although i dont want to
share it with the whole of AB just the ones that are honest
and truthful lol
if you want to e-mail me it's [email protected]


caz x

[geminij]

ive emailed you caz!!

[badgerchops]

You definately need to pull back and let him contact you. No little texts 'everything ok?' etc. By 'bugging' him you will not do yourself any favours. Let him be intrigued as to where you are and why you have not contacted him.

Its all still new and so it may go somewhere but it may not. He sounds respectful enough but you never know if he was just hoping for something more on that night. If this is the case and he is sulking cos he didnt get his leg over then he isnt worth it and move on. You are only in your thirties and so if he isnt the right one for you, its ok.

[sp1814]

Geminij

My suggestion is to text less, and phone more. You'd be surprised just how much information you can glean from someone's tone of voice (enthusiasm, hesitancy etc).

The problem is...blokes like to text more than they like to talk (a bit of a generalisation, but honest - it's mostly true).

[geminij]

badger chops, agree i need to pull back, and i did today and he text me, really dont think it was about not gettinghis leg over because we had sunday morning together and he was lovely, and sp, he likes the phone calls more to be honest so may be thats it,
thanks to everyone for the advice, ive taken it all on board!! x

[geminij]

well, i took a step back and heard nothing from him. i know i shouldnt have but ened up emailing him to ask why he could say he missed me one day and then not bother with me at all, he replied saying that he got the impression i wasnt that bothered with him, he liked me lots, but wanted to be with someone that wanted him as much as he wanted them. so confused what do i do now. ive replied saying sorry i gave that impression but dont know how i have, and that i am bothered