what can i say to him

[starlight123]

my best friend is going through a self concious phase, ever since i have known him he has wanted to be bigger and gain muscles and he wants to be a gym instructor, he has become a lot bigger but its not big bulgy muscles its a nice physique he has got, but now he has been down and says he doesnt want to look to big and is being critical about himself. i sed to him he is perfect the way he is but what can i say to help and cheer him up.

[badgerchops]

Has he got a girlfriend, if not get some girls to give him compliments as to how he looks now. that will help no end.

Can you not set up a meeting with a fitness instructor for advice on becoming and instructor. i know a couple of instructors and they are just toned, not beefcakes.

[badgerchops]

Is he taking supplements/steroids cos his moods are up and down? if so, get him to quit them.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, he may be taking steroids which is why he feels good one minute, then down the next. No point trying to convince him not to take steroids as you will end up losing him as a friend. Just keep telling how good he looks and like badgerchops said, get him to see a fitness instructor and try and get him on the path he was originally on. If he isnt on steroids, then it will be something else that is depressing him. maybe he wants a girlfriend but cant get one. Or maybe people are telling him he looks like a freak because he is so big now. Give him a few months as i think it will just be a phase...

[starlight123]

no i know he aint taking steroids, cuz he would have told me but i do no that he has thought about them before. he has not got a gf, she broke up with him a while ago now nearly been 6 mnt, and he has a lot of girls that think he is attractive but he aint gotta gf yet, he is so wonderful tho and i just wanna be able to help him. he really is everything to me so i dont want him to be like this or see him upset, i will tell him to talk to a gym instructor tho, that might help and i think its a good idea