Sex

[ellen_16]

I've just started having sex with my long term boyfriend and it was my first time. It really hurt the first time so we stopped but everytime we've tried since it still hurts. He tells me I am tight, what can I do? Sorry if that's weird

[snagged]

relaxation... lubrication...

[jno]

it's probably partly that you're not relaxing and enjoying it, which would help lubricate you... and understandably so, since it's hurting you. So your boyfriend needs to be a bit more patient. You could try getting something like KY or other lubricant from the chemist. But don't go thinking it's 'your' problem; both of you need to work on it.

[snagged]

great minds jno ;o)

[ladyshy]

Basically what everyone else says, you need a lot of lubrication so make sure you have a lot of foreplay and that you enjoy all the sensations. You could also show your boyfriend what works for you.

Try and relax as much as possible too as this will help.

Also, because it hurt the first time do you think you may be projecting this a little and tensing up as a result? Again, if so, take a deep breath and calm down. And go at your own pace.

Remember that sex is supposed to be enjoyable so try and relax and enjoy it... you'll work it out, we all did. Good luck littlun.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, what you need to do is tell him to stop rushing you. get him to pleasure you for longer, that way you will be wet enough for when your both ready.
Also, like the above say, you need to relax and get into the sensation. If you need to, give him the oral first so that he can last longer the second time round, which will give him more time to please you...

[palomo]

no you're ok!!!,,,he's not doing it the right way!!!,,,,i have done it with a virgin before and its tight too,,,but thats not the point,,,he have to be very soft and kind with his penis at the begining of sex!!,,,,,also he supose to ,,,,caress you lick you kiss you and tickle you all of this on your vagina and clit,
until you are very very wet then he supose to start intercourse kindly and finish kindly too,,,,dont let nobody to let you think its you,,,,,because its not you its him!!!

[Loosehead]

Yeah tell him to ditch the Aussie foreplay ("Brace yourself sheila") and to spend a bit of time on the prelim!

[ummmm]

well.......I hope the 16 in her name is not her age

[mixmash]

Sex is not just penetration.
Try erotic play and oral sex and exploring each others bodies a lot more.
Get to know each other better physically.
Tell your bf that you like him (if you do that is) and to be patient and to be gentle with you.
And of course try being on top of him when you do have penetration then you can be in control of the pace a depth and lots of lubrication will definately help. (KY jelly from the chemist).
At this stage of you sex life find the aspects you do enjoy and concentrate on them and introduce penetration slowly.
Enjoy! You are a Godess

[sophie_1003]

ummmm---why? shes perfectly legal

[ummmm]

I'm can't even be bothered to type an answer to that

[ummmm]

answers 1 2 3 4 were adequate enough for a 16 year old

Changed my mind.....

[snagged]

;o)