What would you do!

[ronnie3]

I 've got to see my sons headmaster after school today because of an incident where my son lied to cover up for his friend, thats fine and i will deal with it, but, its came out this morning that he(the head)has been having an affair with the secretary how much lying has he done, should i still take my son to see him.

[mycats]

came out how? is it just gossip? even if he was having an affair its none of your business

[raysparx1]

I would still take him and after he has had his rant at you and your lad, ask to see him on his own for a minute, then let him have it, both barrels, tell him what a bl00dy hypocrite he is, then just as his jaw drops walk out without another word.

[4getmenot]

yes what the headmaster does has really nothing to do with you, but your childs education has. If he is having an affair then it will all come back on him, if he isnt then saying this to anyone else before you know any truth is wrong.

[ummmm]

Take him. Just because an adult lies doesn't mean they should let the children in their care do it. He wouldn't be doing his job otherwise

[boro1986]

Agree with ray 100% on his own then just walk out

[HJT40]

to be honest I would be very careful, what if this is only a rumour? You should still take your son to see him and deal with it as you would have done before you found out about him. This has nothing to do with what your son has done. However I can see that it does seem hypocritical of the head to punish someone for lying. If this is what he is up to it will be found out and no doubt he will receive punishment himself of some kind. But if we all think back how many of us can honestly say that we have never lied - ever?

[noxlumos]

No-one here seen Scent of a Woman? Lying for your friend is often a sign of strengh of character and loyalty and one should never forget that, perhaps you might want to remind the head of that as well, but agree with ray, sock it to him.

[laurence2]

Ask the headmaster if his wife knows of his affair?

In regards to your son, let the headmaster deal with it accordingly

[crete]

yes just head but the head master for good measure preferable in front of the children,!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[cascarelli]

Why would you want to try and muddy the water by bringing up something that the Head may or may not have done? That in itself seems very childish.

[flipflop104]

Take your son to the head and act as though you don't know this new ifnormation. Have you ever lied? Have you ever lied for a friend? There's lots of things we all do that we maybe shouldn't do - it doesn't mean that we shouldn't be told that we shouldn't do them. And then when we have the info we can make informed decisions on our choices in life.

You and the head should show your son that you stand united on things of this matter.

How would you feel if the head took you aside and told you what he thought of your personal life. Hypocrite or not - you should both be working together to form/mould your son into a young gentleman that you can all be proud of.

[ronnie3]

Oh his wife knows, the secretary has lost her job and was escorted from school by the priest this morning. Maybe he wont want to see me.
Noxlumos my first thoughs but i can't encourage the lying look what he could turn into.

[drchasuble]

What the guy allegedly gets up to in his spare time is none of your business.
He is reprimanding your son for something that happened during school time and to bring up something that is possibly just hearsay will be incredibly petty on your part. And if it is untrue you will look pretty stupid.

[crete]

ronnie, you should be more concerned re your child than wallowing in the gossip about the head teacher and his alleged affair get your priorities right,

[sunflower71]

this is your sons head teacher and I am sure that, affair or no affair, that he does his job well and has no effect on his abilities.

[4getmenot]

yer so she knows, but again what has it got to do with you?

[joko]

two wrongs don't make a right.

it is not your business what the head does.

it is, however, his business what your son does, and it is his business to deal with kids who have lied and been naughty.

i agree with nox though (as usual)

[Octavius]

Some of the responses above make me realise why my ex-girlfriend - a teacher - often left school in despair sometimes at the audacity of some parents who took it upon themselves to declare their moral predilections in defence of their own cherub. Often physically, often verbally, but ultimately psychologically.

The teacher is exercising his duty to you, the school and your son�s education and upbringing which is obviously of concern to them, if not you. And all you are worried about is his personal affairs? You probably know nothing of his life, but I am certain he will know all about you and yours.

Its pitiable.

[Pippa68]

I would say ''yes, my son has lied and we know that is wrong, don't we Headmaster?''

I would look at him square in the face.

I know it's none of your business re. the affair, but you have to deal with him as if he were a politician ;o)