Life changing decision

[loobie]

Has anybody here made a life changing decision that at the time terrified you due to the amount of change that would occur from it, but was worth it in the end.

Would you do it all over again or do you have any regrets. about it? And how many of you would consider doing something major in your life eg, complete career change, back to education, ending a dead relationship etc.

Just looking for a bit of inspiration here guys to help my little brain so all stories/expriences welcome!!

[nat_84]

Well, me and my boyfriend recently made a life changing decision, which was to go ahead with an unplanned pregnancy...although can't quite fill you in on the outcome just yet...but i'll get back to you ;o)

[loukr]

I myself haven't, but my mum felt no other choice but to leave my dad after he had an affair. She never wanted to, but it was the right thing to do for herself and me and my sister. She never thought she'd find happiness again... 10ish years on and she's re-married and has a beautiful son.

Just goes to show that big change doesn't necessarily(sp?!) mean bad things. :o) xxx

[loukr]

aww congratulations to you nat :o) xx

[curlyfilm]

none really but left home at 16, that was a change in lifestyle
but i always believe

its better to do something and MAYBE regret it
than never do something and always regret it

[HJT40]

Well where shall I start? I have gone through a planned pregnancy on my own from 8 weeks when the father decided it wasn't such a good idea, she is now 12 and I love her more than anything else in the world. (Good luck nat_84!! :-) I moved out from an ex, I went and found a house to rent for me and my daughter, paid a deposit and then told him. I have joined the special constabulary which I do in my spare time and love. None of which took much thought, but all of which have changed my life for the better! ;-)

[HJT40]

Oh yeah and I made one today, to never look in the religion and spirituality section ever again!

[nat_84]

Gosh congratulations to you lot too!

loukr - my mum was forced to make the same decision, i know she didn't want to either as she's been with my dad for about 25 years. But she had no choice and it was mainly for me and my brother that she made him leave. My dads an alcoholic, a drug addict, can be very verbally abusive and has had an affair (think he probably still is)- where as my mum is the softest, kindest person in the world - so she feels like she has to stand by him and support him, despite everything's his done to her and still does to her.

She still lets him stay at ours and stays at his place A LOT. So although she made a big decision in telling him he has to move out, unfortunately i dont think she's strong enough to move on...

[nat_84]

Sorry ...my point was - i really admire you're mum for making that decision!! lol xxxx

[Champagne]

I've made quite a few.

I left home at 17 and that was a real eye-opener! I was so naive and had to suddenly stand on my own two feet and I did really well. I was dead proud of myself!

I'm also capable of turning my life on its head if problems start to get on top of me. I find I can usually handle one major bad thing going on in my life, but if I have 2 or even 3, then I start to crack. That's when I say enough is enough and do something dramatic like walk out of my job and move house, or walk out on a partner and quit my job. That sort of thing. It's amazing how positive a clean slate can make you feel.

[~posy-jo~]

yep. just split up with my husband. now in the process of moving to peterborough to be near my mum, am leaving my job, my house, changing my kids schools!! it's all extremely scary but i am sure i am doing the right thing! any regrets? ask me in 6 months time but i don't think i'll have any.
if you are making a decision, follow your gut instinct it'll take you the right way xXx

[OBonio]

Having a litte OBonio. The amount of change needed from my 'out with the lads on the town every weekend' to being a 'responsible' dad (I still go out now and again!) has taken longer than it should have. Glad I've got there in the end though. Definitely ready for little OBonio #2! Oh, and yes, definitely worth it in the end!

[loobie]

Thanks for all your answers, some rather inspiring stuff!! I'm thinking of going back to uni to become a nurse which is why I asked. It's gonna be a massive decision and I'll have a lot to give up but I feel that this is my only chance to do it. I have no mortgage, no kids and no boyfriend so really, no excuse.

Thanks again guys xxx

[chitchat]

Moving half way round the world with my 2 children, without even seeing the place first. Hubby got a job here in NZ and we followed once the house had sold. But we love it and no regrets.

[winny]

You know what I never done much life changing I too sensible but sometimes wish i wasnt. Good on you all. Parhaps one day I will do something big.

[loukr]

Nat I'm so sorry to hear about that, perhaps it's a comfort to your mum, knowing your dad is still able to come round, even if he wasn't the best husband? And maybe after a while she'll be able to let him go? I guess after 25 years together it must be pretty weird not living in the same house anymore? Does she go out with friends at all? If not, maybe she feels lonely and this is why she still wants to spend time with your dad? Hope everything works out for you, your bump, your boyfriend and your mum :o) Lou x

[loukr]

ooh and congratulations loobie, You've got nothing to lose so why not go for it? I'm going to uni in september to do a fashion course, I don't even know if anything will come of it when I leave, but it's the experience that counts at the end of the day... follow your dreams :o) x