confussed?!

[pregnant-s]

im 17 and 8 weeks pregnant.im trying to decide weither to keep the baby or have a abortion.
if you have been pregnant and didnt no what to decide
how did u decide and what was it like?

thanks x

[makemesmile]

Can I ask why you are posting this question again, please?

[pregnant-s]

because my other one got deleted

[makemesmile]

No, it's still there

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Q uestion364154.html

[pregnant-s]

oh ok dont matter

[warpig1]

pregnant-s, i read your previous thread and unfortunatley as you are aware it was taken over by others.

Only you can decide what to do, but in answer to your question, I was pregnant and didn't know what to do, my then boyfriend stated that he didnt know what he would be doing in 2 years time and therefore it would be better if i didn't have the baby. As I was unsure I went along with his decision and had an abortion.

This decision destroyed my life for several years leaving me with severe guilt and physological problems. I am ok now after counselling but if you decide to go for an abortion please, please, please look into all aspects of it first and ensure that there is after care available, not so much medical aftercare but counselling.

Good luck with whatever you decide.
warpig1 XXXX

[makemesmile]

You are free to ask any question you wish, as many times as you wish, but please be ready to read some answers you may not like.

Not everyone on this site is respectful of your feelings.

Take care x

[cliffsweb]

i know its too late now, but i really wish you had taken precautions before having sex, i take it you are physically well in mind and body, this pregnancy will not kill you or harm anyone?
except the baby. it is not a game. it is a human life you're threatening to destroy, you will not like this at all, but if you're grown up enough to have relationships and sex, you should both you and the father should be mature enough to take the consequences. could you not have the baby adopted to parents who will give it love and everything it deservs.

[pregnant-s]

sorry i have just this minute found out that the father of my baby has also got another girl pregnant she is 5 weeks pregnant she is keeping it.but this has totally messed with my head.he doesnt want to have anything to do with my baby but he wants to have something to do with hers.:'(

[redcrx]

i think that you will get many varying answers on B&S and a obviously didnt get put off by the arguments the other day. Youve also asked this on family
If the father is so unreliable that he is getting girls pregnant all over the shop then really hes in no position to be a father.
As ive already said on your post on 'family' you need counselling from an organisation like brook. They will be able to give you lots of information.

[pregnant-s]

ive been to a family planning clinic they didnt reli help me
im devistated that he wants to be a dad to her baby but not mine he crnt just pick and choice which kids he wants in his life.

[cliffsweb]

my baby, those were your words.
what does this mean? does it mean you recognize that you have a little human being growing inside you and you actually care? or
i dont know wether or not to , KEEP IT?
you're talking about a tube of smarties here.
grow up.

[redcrx]

didnt you say the father wasnt allowed to see his child as social services are involved? How many children has he got and how many does he bother with?

[redcrx]

family planning isnt brook! family planning is where you really shouldve gone before, not after becoming pregnant.
The details are on the family post, have you read it?

[Champagne]

Your story isn't consistent. I smell a Russian...

[Skreecheeboy]

Why do women do it to themselves? There are plenty of nice guys out there that treat women with respect. Why are women so stupid when it comes to choosing partners?

[pregnant-s]

he has got two on the way.. mine and this other girls and no he isnt allowed to see them but that doesnt change the fact that he cheated on me with her cos shes 5 weeks pregnant.i do reconise its a baby but its a hard decition u no

[makemesmile]

Champagne - I fear you may be right

[pregnant-s]

how was i surpose to no he was like this?

[ummmm]

Maybe you should get to know someone before you have sex with them.....

[pregnant-s]

i knew him a year before i had sex with him!!!!!
and i did no him but you crnt tell if sum1 is going to cheat on u or not