Mummy tummy

[B00]

Following on from legend's Q, I have what Mr Boo calls a "mummy tummy", which roughly translates to a (small!) spare tyre with stretch marks on it.

Now I detest this part of me and really hate it when he touches it, however he reckons he loves it as its part of me and it's only there as i've given birth to his baby yada yada yada....

Now my Q is, is he talking complete and utter rubbish? Do ya reckon he probably thinks it's gross as well but it's here to stay so he might as well accept type it of thing? Or could he genuinely believe the flannel he tells me?

[RATTER15]

Champagne, you are right, men certainly have the same issues, probably a little more reluctant to discuss them though.
I have a belly that any nine months pregnant woman would be proud of, I'm not happy with it, but its mine, I have no hang-ups about it, it ain't likely to disappear, I would rather it did though!! and I cant even blame it on beer lol

[legend758duo]

one of my childrens mothers had a mummy tummy.
it also had numerous stretch marks.
making it resemble a watermelon.
on reflection i think i did like it .
but it also was different from when id met her.
am i bad because i missed the old her?
even though i still loved her?
god i need beer im getting toooooooo deep now .lol

[crete]

i dont see what all the fuss is about ive had ten children and my abdomen is as flat as a pancake,,,,,,,,,,,,,,: )

[B00]

One of your childrens mums? How many kids have you got legend????

I've tried having this argument on Messenger with someone and I failed miserably with it. The person I spoke to reckoned that men in general genuinely don't mind these tummys.

Which makes me wonder then why, when they get lads mags or porn, they drool over the oh so many perfect bodies in them???

[legend758duo]

how many?
is there a reason to ask this boo?
you make me sound bad there.

:(

[RATTER15]

What men see in porno and girlie mags is a very shallow physical attraction only!!

What your lover sees is something very different when he looks at you!! he sees the Woman on the inside and that is a very deep emotional and physical attraction!!

I think that makes sense, doesn't it?

[legend758duo]

sure ratty.
still waiting boo???????

[Athley]

....and they are airbrushed too Boo!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And body painted !!!!!!!!!!!!! And they have half a tonne of make up on!!!! And the most fantastic lighting that would make my granny look like a porn star .



Love yourself - Ratter as usual has the right ideas here.


:o)

[Mammar]

Stick with W. H. A. L. E. S. I like that.
Crete - you're either lying or I hate you.
And if you're comparing mummy tummies, I win.
Believe me, that's not the first thing he thinks about when he looks at you.
Cheer up, chuck. Go have a cake

[B00]

Yeah I know ratter- just an argument i was using to try and win the row....lol

I only asked because of the way you worded it legend, sorry, no offence meant at all. Who am I to say anything if you've got children dotted around the british isles? Hell ive got a jelly belly ;-)


i'm kidding by the way legend.

[B00]

Mammar- I like you, lol.

[legend758duo]

not dotted around.
they all came from loving relationships.
not that many either.
just prefer some privacy lol.
its cool boooooooo

[B00]

sorry athley just seen your post. Ye I agree they are airbrushed and make upped to within an inch of their lives to look that good. However it doesn't alter the fact that men obviously prefer to look at beautiful people otherwise they wouldn't bother prettying the pics.

Did that make sense?

[Athley]

I think you'll find though Boo if you gave your husband the choice of an evening alone with his magazine or an evening with you naked - he'd pick you every time!!

xx



....... and if he didn't you could beat him to death with the rolled up magazine!!!

[yinyang]

These women are purely for decoration, I don't think the men are thinking of a long term relationship when they're looking at the pictures.
Anyway, I think the biggest problem is not men looking at pictures in magazines but us women looking at these airbrushed, starved, over made up women and thinking 'I should look like that' All these stupid women flogging exercise DVD's saying' ooh, I had twins and 6 days later went out wearing size 8 jeans' It doesn't encourage or motivate us , it just makes us feel like like big, flabby failures.
I go to a yoga class every week and you would be flabbergasted at all the different sizes and shapes you get there. No two women the same and not one out of the whole class would say they were perfect. But we do what we can and we have a laugh and when I leave it is probably the one time in the week when I feel relaxed and comfortable with myself. My husband looks forward to these nights! ;0

[B00]

lol, i used to go to aerobics, but totally ruined the effect by going pub then the chippy on the way home :-(

[BettySmitten]

Hi Boo

I also used to hate my 'mummy tummy' and was paranoid about my boyfriend touching it, even though it wasn't even that bad. He said it didnt bother him in the slightest, and if i kept on about it, it would do his head in eventually (the moaning - not the belly).

Then I had a reality check, when through no fault of my own i ended up with a permanent colostomy 4 years ago. Now i struggle with people's vanity when they're moaning about a little bit of fat and a few stretchmarks... even though i was one of them!!

Now i guess i'd do anything (just about) to just have that little belly and a maze of red marks across it.

The stoma/colostomy bag don't bother my boyfriend either, he always has and always will love me no matter what, and now i believe him.

Please dont see this as any kind of personal attack on anyone who is unhappy with their body, I'm just talking about how, i personally, put things into perspective.

Take care

Betty.x

[crete]

well done betty a pleasure to read your post.

[B00]

betty- bless you.

That most certainly is a reality check. Don't get me wrong, I know there's bigger issues in life to worry/stress about. I guess I was just pondering out loud when I posted the question.

You're a star, thank you for the cyber knock on the head :-)

xxx