Are you gently honest or brutally frank?

[beryllium]

When you're getting your point across?

[nigella]

hmm, tough one, i guess it depends on the topic of conversation, some situations require gently honesty and other require a more fierce approach,

i personally endeavour to be as gently as possible when pointing out 'truths', but sometimes the truth can hurt anyway, so even that can be classed as 'brutal',

how about you beryllium? care to offer your opinion?

[unruliejulie]

I am a bit of a wimp when it comes to peoples feelings beryllium. I would never offend just cause "its the truth" I have sometimes wished i could be a bit stronger on this issue but thats just me! If i think what i'll say would cause someones feelings to be hurt, then my mouth is firmly sealed!

[beryllium]

Hello nigella
I would hope to be gently honest...... but I know I can be brutally frank too :-( try to breath and think lol
I try not to blurt ..... but as you point out.... different situations call for different approaches. :-)
I'm still learning and always will...... x

[Sue de Nym]

I'm very frank, but you can call me Sue

[society]

What's the difference? I understand honesty to be and integrity characteristics while Frank is someones' name.

[beryllium]

Hi Caz and Julie :-)
You guys weren't there when I posted lol.....
hmmm, dont offend even though it's the truth, so you would lie? example pleaseee please....

[beryllium]

oi!!! u 2 lol.... actually, Franks our next door neighbour....

[-Zorro-]

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[beryllium]

lmao....Alrighty the -Zorro-, how to deal with clients eh?

[unruliejulie]

I would lie, yes Beryl if it meant that person wouldnt go away feeling hurt. That might be seen as wrong by some but i couldnt stand the thought that i had upset them. I would rather tell i little white lie than have that on my conscience.
I take we we are talking about more superficial things such as" does my bum look big in this" type of thing ?? Of course there are some things that need the truth and if i really really had to then it would be as gently honest as i could make it..

[society]

Jules your lies are always forgiven since it's done in decent taste, honestly!

[unruliejulie]

im saying i would tell a little white lie to protect someones feelings. If it was serious matter, then no, i would probably be honest, but very tactful! There is no need to be brutally frank in my opinion.

[jump79]

I like to think I am being gently honest with people, ie- sugarcoating and indirectly telling the truth, but i've been told by someone that I can be a little 'blunt' at times ... so I suppose it depends how irritable/impatient I'm feeling on the day. Overall though, I'd rather say nothing at all if its a sensitive issue.

[beryllium]

I think the truth serves right by people.
An old colleague of mine had bad B.O. She was being talked about behind her back and I don't like that sort of thing. I talked to her. Gently honest in this case lol..... and all was well.
I am frank with mr B, but that's usually when there's an argument going on *cringe*

The 'does my bum look big in this?' q..... Yep, I'd be either brutal... ie: on the floor rolling around in laughter... so that would be a yes then..... or an honest no and you look fantastic. Friends need the truth too!!! and guys aint the best to ask that q to now are they?

[Goodsoulette]

we had a guy like that at aplace I used to work at, lovely but very smelly to this day we refer to him as Smelly *insert name*. We just put deodorant in the staff rooms and it sort of sorted it out, he just worked really hard and looking back on it, it wasnt the worse thing in the world. We did have a customer who was a drunk (it was a pub) and he stank to high heaven, in the end I told him to "get a biath or get out for good".... so i think I am capable of both.

[Champagne]

I would much rather be upfront and honest with people. Some people don't like that about me and think it's harsh or arrogant. But I'd rather they thought I was a tough cookie than walk all over me!!

I'm very good at judging people and can be extremely tactful if the situation requires it.