big mistake

[jibjab]

i made a big drunken mistake last night. i am a single 24 yr old lad and ended up sleeping with a girl i didnt even fancy, thing is i was careful etc but she has told her mates and the whole world now knows what happened.

I am so embarrassed as I dont brag about people i sleep with and she is not my type, my mates have got me worried saying i need to get down to the clinic and "tings need to be sorted before they get out of hand because people are involved' which sounds a bit like a threat, like i might end up getting a beating or something

she says she uses the coil and i used a condom too and also didnt 'sel the deal' so to speak, so is there any chance she might still get pregnant? what about the diseas thing . im so worried any answers appreciated, im not the kind of guy who usually does this honestly

[B00]

If she has a coil fitted, you used a condom and you didnt ejaculate (least i think that's what 'sel the deal' means?) I'd say the chances of her getting pregnant by you are slim to none, so I wouldn't worry too much about that element of it.

Yes i'd still pop to the clinic and have tests done, better safe than sorry.

I don't understand why you think you may get beaten up? Because you slept with her in the 1st place? Or because you aren't going to repeat it?

And lastly- are you the guy who was here several months ago complaining that you can't get a GF because you're too good looking?

[sleepyj]

just testing think i have been banned

[Goodsoulette]

We all make mistakes, I am sure most people here and woken up to a slightly terrifying person sharing their bed.

Going to the clinic is only good practice. Its qquite nice to know you have all the clear as it isnt just one night stands that carry diseases.

[stokeace]

tut tut i take it you were p***ed when the beer goes in all sense goes and your brain went into your trousers it sounds like your brain went into your boxer shorts.you should stop whingeing and treat this girl with a bit of respect if her brothers or whoever give you a kicking you have brought it on yourself my advice is think next time..........

[bednobs]

i think your panicky feelings are more to do with the fact you regret it, not because you seriously think you might have made her pregnant or caught something from her

[ummmm]

Chill man...it happens

[IggyB]

stop being soft... you clearly haven't gotten her pregnant, you used a condom so chances of catching anything is pretty slim, and if she is attached then its her thats going to be getting into trouble for sleeping with someone else not you... just take a deep breath and move on - you seem to be obsessing over nothing

[nuoyg]

Firstly, do your friends know how worried you are? I know boys will be boys but if they do then they're not being particularly helpful.

secondly, you say you used a condom - the chances of pregnancy would be very very low. The chances of any kinds of diseases would be too, but to put your mind at rest, as the other AB people advise, get checked out.

You are single and she told you that she was single. So you're two consenting adults who have done nothing wrong. If you had started promising her a relationship etc, then that would have been unfair.

It sounds like it's got a bit out of hand and I don't think your friends are helping with their rumours etc. I think I would learn from the experience and keep your head down for a week or so and see if it dies down. Friends aside, have you heard anything from anyone else? If not, then perhaps they are pulling your leg. Is one friend a little more sensitive than the others? Perhaps you could phone him when he is away from them and say it's really worrying you so if they are joking please could he let you know kind of thing.

[stokeace]

i hope your k**b turns green and scabby ha ha ha that will teach you lol

[mrknowall]

I have to agree with IggyB

We have all done it and far worse so forget about it dont waste your time worrying.
You wore something so i dont see a problem

[ummmm]

I've never done it

[mrknowall]

yer right u a nun lol

[ummmm]

Didn't I mention that?

[mrknowall]

No but ive never had a nun lol

[mrknowall]

ive had a few girl friends who should of been nuns

[ummmm]

You want to watch out for those nuns Mr K.....

[stokeace]

i s**gged a nun once and now i cant get out of the 'habit'

[ummmm]

Well It's not much of a habit if you only done it once.. :-)

[johnlambert]

I've lost count of the number of one night stands I've had, put it down to experience and forget about it.

[mrknowall]

ive never been married but ive had a couple of wifes