Lung Cancer & Feeling uselsss...

[nat_84]

My boyfriend found out yesterday that his unle has lung cancer. It was a really difficult evening last night and i feel emotionally drained.

Neither my boyfriend or i know much (if anything!?) about it or what happens next. Apparently they won't be able to cure it but possibly slow it down...?!

Can anybody tell me any more about it? or what he might have to go through?

I feel useless towards my boyfriend and i think he feels useless towards his family - cousins in particular. Cancer is the sort of thing where you just dont know what to say other than to try and remain positive!

He's uncles only early 40s and like all of his uncles they are very close to thier nephew (my boyfriend) as he lost his dad when he was only 8 - so they were the male role models in his life.

I think its the hardest thing is seeing a grown man cry and all i want to do is say everything will be alright... but feel as though i'm lying when i say that!!

Appreciate any advice reagarding lung cancer and anyone that's been through a similar situation.

Thanks x

[nat_84]

Awww Baby Jane thats so nice of you! You're an extremely kind and thoughtful person.

Weekend wasn't too bad, think Karl got all his heartache out on the Friday evening he found out. As long as he's kept busy and motivated he'll have less time to think the worse. All we know at this stage regarding his uncle is that they defintely can't operate on him, so it is literally a case of slowing it down. We'll remain positive and supportive and see what happens.

Thanks once again for your kind words of support.

I gave baby a little pat from you! Got Docs tomorrow morning for an assessment so we're looking forward to that! Hope you had a lovely Bank Holiday weekend! xxx

[muchlovex]

Hello again nat_84.

First of all congratulations on being pregnant..when is you baby due?

Secondly i am sorry about your BF uncle. We both need to stay positive. There is a long way to go for your Uncle. I am assuming that the docs may give him Megestrol tablets which may slow the tumor down. They gave this to my mum before they started her chemo.
Never give up hope.

Love muchlovex

[nat_84]

Thanks muchlove - Our baby girl is due on 14th July - our first child and already our everything!

I agree that we must stay positive. As you mentioned - this isnt the first time you've been through it with your mum - so i imagine you're her rock and her reason for staying strong. I can't can't even begin to imagine what you've been through but can only sincerley wish that she once again she wins her battle.

My thoughts and prayers are truly with you xxxx

[muchlovex]

thank you nat.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your BF at this difficult time.

Love muchlovex

[nat_84]

YAY! Had great news yesterday after boyfriend's uncle saw a specialist!!! He said he might be able to cure his cancer!!

He said if the chemo works and they manage to shrink the cancer then they should be able to operate!

Was sooooo happy and relieved to hear it. Obviously nothing's cement at the moment but it's defintely put a brighter out look on things!

[dee5]

That sounds really positive nat_84.

Dee
x

[Baby Jane]

nat

How brilliant is that, (my internets been down) I was so happy to hear. It is shrinking my mums,so he has every chance, all the luck in the world to him, and please tell Karl I send my love

take care sweetie
xxx

[Baby Jane]

Hello nat -84 darlin

A patient at same hospital as mum had chemo daily for 3 weeks for cancer surrounding his lung ( wasnt entirely in the lung, well not up till his operation) He had his op Friday and they believe they got it all. He has to wait for full. results. Mum thinks he is in his thirties bless him. So its looking good for him, with The Lords help and the wonderful doctors.
Hope your well, ( & Karl too) not long to go now eh.? Take care, sweetie.

lots of love xx

[nat_84]

Hey Baby Jane - sorry just noticed your replies!!

Thank lovely!! yes we're all over the moon - although still got a looooong way to go!!!

Glad to hear your mums seems to be shrinking too!! How is she? x

(60 days to go till the "Big Day" - very exciting lol!!)

xxxx

[Baby Jane]

nat
Good morning darlin. Mums okay but I cannot get her to go out,she wont she says till her treatment is done cos she feels "dirty" with this thing in her. What can you do? just be there I suppose.
My birthday June 11th so I will remember your liitle bundle comes about a month later. Have you chosen some names?
All my love to you, and prayers for uncle( and Maddie too)
post to you soon.
stay safe and well
xx

[nat_84]

Yes - you're right, you'll just have to be there and support her like you have been doing. Its so difficult. Maybe if you both felt up to it you could have a few of your friends and family around for a nice dinner or something?

Oh happy Birthday for 11th june! How old are you going to be (if you dont mind me asking!)? Any kids of your own?

Karls sisters baby is due on 5th June - but he's big baby so might arrive sooner!

As for names, we're struggling! Had loads of boys names lined up! the ones we do have are Mia (i like), Paige (Karl likes), Charlotte (both sort of like...) and Olivia (but thats Karls cousins name!)... so we're still unsure!

xxx

[Baby Jane]

I will be 58 and have regular collegen injections in face and neck ( so very vain ) cos I want to grow old disgracefully !!
I have one daughter who is a midwife and two precious wonderful little grandsons. I love the names you have thought about. Mai and Paige sounds lovely. I have just become godmother (6 times) to a baby girl Chelsie. You sound such a lovely young lady, sweet and caring, I hope Im not too old for you to "chat to".

xxx

[nat_84]

No don't be silly of course you're not - it's nice talking to someone older than myself!!

How wonderful that your daughter is a midwife!! I wish i trained in something as rewarding - rather than getting a boring old office job!! So do you and your daughter have a good relationship?

And you're the godmother for 6 others!! That says a lot about you!! U must be a rather remarkable woman! Which i think is reflected in the care you take for your mother!!


xxx

[Baby Jane]

HI darlin
My daughter and I share every thing, go places together and are known for going into fits of giggles. She steers me from "my age shops" to shops more trendy ( only so she can borrow my clothes ha ha ) She is lovely (so is son-in-law). My hubby works in the medical side of things, so they talk "shop" all the time, she;s daddies girl still.
Whats wrong with working in an office? bet your wonderful at your job. You know its like having another daughter, how lovely is that? My daughter wishes you well and said if she can be of any help (advice wise) you only have to ask me.
I have seen Rod Stewart live so many times hence my AB name.

lol xx
ps mum says hello.

[fine,thanks]

nat and baby j , im delighted to hear the latest update from you , and to be supporting each other, excellent.

[Baby Jane]

fine, thanks

Its nice to have all these friends isnt it, (nat_84 is so lovely,) and when you are in a thread you get to know every one and it feels as if your in a huge group of close pals.

xxx

[nat_84]

Ah thats lovely - nothing better than having a great mother-daughter relationship. I'm very close to my mum too. Unfortuntely i dont get to see her as much as i'd like to these days as she spends Thursdays to Sundays at my dads (who's a difficult character for more than one reason!), i also think he's a bad influence on her... but this is a whole different story!

Awww i now adopt you as my online mother!! lol. It is nice having someone to "speak" to in a similar situation and just being able to get everything off your chest to someone who understands! i was telling Karl you send your best wishes to him and his uncle and also about your mothers situation - he was touched! When i said "Baby Jane" - he was like... "How old is she!!??" lol - hence the reason i asked today.

As for my office job, i'm an Office Manager/PA... On the positive side of things the pay is brilliant and its only one stop on the train from where i live and the location is fab (Baker Street - right near Regents Park). On the other side though the company specialises in the energy sector - which bores me to death!!!!!! I rarely have much work on (although today i'm quite "busy" for a change) it's also very socially isolating as i'm on my own a lot of the time!

I might start looking for a different area of work after my maternity leave...!

Thanks fine, thanks! xxx

[Baby Jane]

There now, we have something in common,we are both managers. What a posh place to work. It will be a pleasure to be your "online mother" I remember where you worked from a thread we were in a few weeks ago,when you were bored and I suggested going for coffee.
Tell Karl I hope I remind folk of Rods Baby jane and not "Whatever happened to Baby Jane" tee hee ( not sure if you know that film but she was gross!!

speak to you soon
lots of love

xx

[nat_84]

So whats your job? You on AB whilst at work too then? i start maternity leave on 15th June! Cant bloody wait!

I'll tell Karl it's defo Rods Baby Jane! lol. He's soooo late picking me up - i'm still at work - should have left 30 minutes ago :o( But the poor bloke's stuck in traffic... not his fault. SHould really just get the train home - so much quicker lol.


Take Care
xxx

[Baby Jane]

Roll on June 15th then. You can put your feet up cos after baby comes you wont be able to. Hope you got home ok, traffic must be terrible where you are.
I work for an christian organisation which is world wide. Both buildings I manage have rooms full of office staff who deal in specialist areas. Yes I AB at work !! at the moment I have no internet at home,going to buy a new computer etc,so for now I am a 9 to 5 aber.
Going to see Rod (AGAIN ) in June, saw Dolly Parton last month & Diana Ross.
you get all the rest you can, post me soon, lots of love to you sweetheart
xxx