Have you ever fallen for someone's lies... Bigtime?

[Rubyrose]

And then found out the truth or seen something that completely changed your thinking on them.. but instead of being angry or upset.. (like you thought you'd be) you just kind of didn't care about them anymore? And you realise that the next poor mug is falling for their cr@p right now!
Does that mean you never really cared or they have upset you so much you completely detatch?

[grumpii]

I still love somebody very much but a lack of trust has led me to detatch myself from her, although I will always love her, I will no longer put myself in a position to be decieved again, although I will always care. Good luck to the next poor mug (as you put it!)

[essex bloke]

morning rubes , i did hook line and sinker and when i found out the truth that she had a bf all along i just put it to the back of my mind but yer i thought i would be angry but since talking to someone else it seems most of her days are spent telling tales

[4getmenot]

yes I have and got rid, but of course I cared otherwise wouldnt have got rid and they could say what they liked coz I wouldnt give a t0ss, but it upset me and I told them where to go. They do it all the time to others, but to people I'm not really bothered about so let them get on with it. If I hear stuff being said about me I will confront anyone where I think it matters if they really aren�t worth it I don�t.

[laurence2]

Don't know really.

Its never happened to me, but i'm the type who believes i can spot someone telling porkie pies a million miles away, i've always been on my guard against this type be it relationships, friends, work colleague etc etc.

You probably did care, but you saw a side to this person that you seriously did'nt like ie the trust has gone so now the relationship/friendship is therefore easier to detach, anger takes over because you feel that you've been used to a degree.

[Skreecheeboy]

Yes, I think it's the second one. If somebody hurts you that much it's easy to just have enough of their sh1t, there are some people in the world only intent on helping themselves and it doesn't matter who they stand on or bullsh1t to to get what they want. And then you get mugs like you and me that are willing to turn the other cheek time after time until you just give up. I've been taken for a fool a number of times by drug addicts and beggars. It's tantamount to robbery if you ask me but they always have an excuse or a sob story the treacherous toads.

[Champagne]

It doesn't mean that you don't care. I think you can still really care for the person but you just see them in a completely different light. Plus it's usually quite a shock to the system when it happens, but you step back and think, "Well what can I do about it? After all, I'm the naive one." And also you tend to think they're a bit of a prat for being like that in the first place!

It has happened to me and it's not nice being deceived but usually these people are deceiving themselves. When somebody weaves such a complicated web of lies or puts up a false facade then they have to live that lie to a great degree, so deep down they're confused and insecure. Very messed up little children really.

[Rubyrose]

Nah.. I just feel like a mug now! Everytime I speak to this person.. which isn't often.. mostly on MSN.. they just feed me the same cr@p and until now.. I was believeing it! Ohwell!

[Skreecheeboy]

Just block them and wash your hands of the whole matter. It's their loss for being such a pratt.

[nannon]

i fell for someone lie BIGTIME!! havent see him fo rtwo and half years but know i'm still in love with him - think i always will be. But wouldnt put myself throug hit again - i felt do sorry for him and wanted to help lalalal! Dont even know how i feel - i cry about him sometimes, hurt like hell - wish i knew where he was and if he is happy...but mostly i do feel sorry for the person he's with now cuz i dont think he will ever change - he told me he nerver would....god i feel totally depressed now - anyone fancy getting a seeach party together??!!

[Rubyrose]

All very good points!

Skreech.. I think you're right.. I shall just block them and the next time they want a cosy little late night chat.. they can FO!

[Skreecheeboy]

Or you can speak to me instead!!!!

[Rubyrose]

Now there's a plan Skreechee baby... :o)

[~posy-jo~]

personally i think you can get to a point when someone has upset and hurt you so much that you just detatch yourself from the situation. you look at it and think logically and realise what they are actually like (hope that makes sense! lol!) xXx

[Rubyrose]

I know what you mean Posy. I think thats what it is.. I am not annoyed... I'm not upset... I'm not dissapointed... I just kind of think it's his loss... and I am more annoyed at myself that everytime they fed me their cr@p I was buying it! It's been going on for nearly 2yrs!

[grumpii]

Isnt it a nice feeling though, once you have seen the light.

[~posy-jo~]

hell yes!! i was in this sort of situation recently and i can't believe how much happier i am now! the lying tw@t is still trying to feed me crap but i know better to listen now and i'm so glad i got out! (sorry for the rant rubes!!) xXx

[Rubyrose]

You kind of feel less pressure!

[~posy-jo~]

oops should have said 'i know better THAN to listen now'

[Rubyrose]

Rant away... feel free to get it all off your chest... lets make this a ranting thread! Lol

[~posy-jo~]

noooo don't get me started today! got plenty of ranting to get out of my system!! lol! just gonna attack my house with a bottle of bleach and blast some music out! always makes me feel better! hope you all have a good day xXx