J'accused !

[Roughquest]

I have had a bad few days, one of my close friends decided she would accuse me of sleeping with her husband! How on earth do you get round that ? None of which is true....anyone been in this situation before? I am so upset...she has since found out it isnt true now but has not even apologised to me...

[mrpeter]

I think your close friend should now become an ex best friend. Who needs friends like that!!

[ma'gliddy]

Your pal must feel really bad and embarrassed. She got her info from somewhere, and if her marriage isn't solid then its easier to believe the worst. Can you not call her to see how she is. If your friendship means a lot to you, talk to her about how she came to think this of you and go from there. The apology will come.

[Roughquest]

She has started sending threatening texts so I had had enough and drove round to see her face to face, we talked but she showed no sign of being apologetic, she is a nurse and this happened the other night all because i asked what shift she was on and I replied 'oh thats intresting' - apparently her husband went 'out' the night she was on her shift, she only knew this as a family friend called round the same evening to find on one home, so her husband didnt give her a straight answer when she confronted him, so she put 2 & 2 together..her presto, I told her I meant that comment via another means (my paramedic friend)....ho hum.....she has been really nasty to me so I decided to leave and come back home telling her she knows where to find me if she needs anything.

[raysparx1]

Hello RQ, she is not a close friend, you have tried to sort it out, she has not listened, if she does come round i think you only need two words, the second one being OFF, I would have nothing more to with the old sow.

[Roughquest]

Thanks Ray, I feel absolutely awful, and guilty and I havent done anything!!!! I know Im single but I dont even fancy her other half !

[raysparx1]

RQ, You shouldn't feel bad, what have you done, she is in the wrong, not you, she needs to make it up to you big time, I think you did the right thing by saying you know where I am, she has a lot to think about, I can understand you being hurt, but you are the innocent party here, take care RQ xx

[ma'gliddy]

Sorry i got her all wrong, do you think her husband is seeing someone? she is obviously convinced he is. How is she still mad at you when she knows it wasn't true?

[Roughquest]

My 'friends' husband is considerably younger than her (17 years younger) and I think she is feeling somewhat paranoid now - you see her husband is just a few years older than me....in a roundabout way she has more or less made me feel like a threat...

[ma'gliddy]

She must have very low self esteem, which is a shame, but that doesn't mean u have to be at the butt end of that. She has the problem not you, so dont let her problem become yours, you've done what you can. Put it in the past where it belongs.....Behind you.

[joko]

how do you get on with him?
i once had a friends fella ''imply'' something had happened between us, because he felt i was a bad influence on her (i,e. I encouraged her to stand up for herself) and he preferred her weak-willed, he knew she would forgive him and turn on me... it worked.