Im so self concsious

[rh902007]

Hi, im 16 and whenever I am around alot of people I dont know very well and around alot of girls I get so self concsious. Even just walking down the street I cant lift my head up im just so shy! In front of real real good friends I am fine, loud and have fun. But say a girl was next to me I get so shy and self concsious I come across really boring and I only say yes and no lol. In my head im thinking, I MUST SEEM A RIGHT PRAT, WHAT IF I SMELL, WHAT IF .....etc etc. It is really annoying me, to the point i avoid going places with people and am spending to much time on my own and at home. Any help? Thanks. I hate being shy! PS, is there ANY shy girls or anything out there cos all girls to me seem SO CONFIDENT! I feel im never ever gona have a good relationship!

[fine,thanks]

all your feeling are completely normal, dont worry this time in your life will pass.

[sleepy1]

poor you i was really shy till i was about 30 i never hardly use to talk to any one , even now some times i can be shy .i dont know what to suggest coz i dont think it matters what people tell you if you feel like that .just try and relax you are probably worrying about nothing ,

[Joe_the_Lion]

At 16, it is nice to hear a child who has a degree of innocence about her.

Some people are extravert, some introvert. That is a fact of life that is not detrimental.

If I had a 16 year old daughter I would be bloody proud of her if she was conservative and shy as opposed to the brash, 10 Mayfair Light a day, booze drinking, bus-graffitting, pregnant wannabes that I understand exist in some town centres.

Do not worry and be yourself.

[rh902007]

lol im a male!!

haha! Its just girls seem so confident and im so shy.

[sleepy1]

lol rh just watch you dont get preg .

[fine,thanks]

rh90, please excuse lenny the lion. who has difficulty in reading questions, we all knew you were male

[Joe_the_Lion]

Christ you sound like a girl. Keep your head down is my advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nah seriously transpose all my words for boys and the same applies.

Some women like the brash in your face confident male master, but equally, they like the moody shy kid.

It comes from Freud spin offs. Girls who prefered their dads want a dominant male, girls who prefered their mum want to mother and be kind to the meeker ones.

[Joe_the_Lion]

fine,thanks. Where exactly does it say he is a boy.

[redcrx]

i thought it he was a girl too :(

[fine,thanks]

lenny the lion. try reading the question again, its not difficult for most of us..

[Joe_the_Lion]

I have read it. And to pi55 on your fire you are now calling redcrx stupid as well. 

[rh902007]

haha, dont worry about it! Suppose most male's dont ask questions like this because they think they have to be macho and r scared what people think, but its on the internet so who cares!

[tiny e.a]

If you feel shy when you first meet people don't let it worry you too much and don't put pressure on yourself by thinking you should be doing/saying this or that. Act however you feel comfortable, and as you say, once you get to know people you're fine. You sound like a nice person with a sense of humour and people will see that in the long term. Not everyone like immediately in your face people, in fact I think they do most people's heads in so be proud of yourself!

[fine,thanks]

id never call red stupid, emotive words lenny , been on the special brew again ?, rh90 sorry your very genuine question has deteriorated like this, but i think you feel the way most young boys feel at sometime.

[nat_84]

Hi rh, as the others have said it's only natural.

I was probably one of the shyest girls in my whole secondary school - i bloody hated it!!! I've talked about this on AB before when i similar quesiton was asked, but seriously try not to worry about it.

I'm now 22 and still have my pathetic shy moments but confidence comes with experience and in time.

[redcrx]

Joe, I hope youre not implying that Im not stupid :)

and fine, thanks, i did read it again and its still not really obvious :(

[raysparx1]

Don't worry about it, you will gradually become more and more confidant, you are fine when you are with your mates, so I don't think you should be worrying about it, a lot of your mates will be feeling the same way as you, but some cover the shyness up by being a bit over the top, a lot of girls will find it very attractive that you are like that, the important thing is for you to be yourself.