Stranger things have happened.....

[AngelFurious]

Do you think it is possible to fall in love with someone, even if you haven't met them......?

[sleepy1]

me zorro lol

[AngelFurious]

Legend - I would like to make it clear - We are not having an 'affair!'

[AngelFurious]

Legend - No, If I was, I would admit to it. I am who I am. xx

[sleepy1]

is it any one from ab angel ???

[cazzz1975]

Im sure it can and does happen angel, I feel that you cannot really get to know how a person ticks based on web posts or emails, a lot of people lie, its a sad fact.

loves of peoples lives are quite readily avaliable these days, sadly they often are a stop gap until the next love of their life appears or until the novelty wears off.

I know I sound cynical but the internet contributes to a lot of families being ripped apart.

[unruliejulie]

but we can meet people in a club/pub or anywhere else, and then go on a date and that happens Legend. If we were that cautious all the time we would never meet anyone new! If she has been corresponding on the internet, phone and msn for a year, im sure she is pretty certain that he is who he says he is! It would be very difficult to cover your tracks and motives for that long i would imagine. I don't see how the Internet is any different from real life and to be honest, it happens very rarely. Not everyone on the Internet is a freak and should be avoided.! I know there are some weirdos out there but that goes for in "real" life too!
Good luck Angel, hope it all goes well.x

[mrknowall]

I was about to post the same julie.....
But as you have posted what i was gonna say i wont
As long as your carefull you will be ok.

[unruliejulie]

Thats the key Mrk, but as far as im concerned, that goes for any situation when meeting someone new, no matter where you "know" them from! Just cant seem to wrap my head round this thing that the internet only attracts evil people with ulterior motives!

[mrknowall]

No I'm a little lost to...
I don't think people realise how much they do trust strangers without realising.
It happens every day and i bet they let most in there own homes..
ie : has sky or cable men been in your house...The gas or electric man checking the meter. Well they are complete strangers.
If you broke down on a motorway you better not ring the AA or RAC then and dont even dare go to your local doctor.

[LittleMissxx]

sadly in my experience online they wernt who they said they were. webcam is your best bet. if they wont use that then smell a rat

[helster]

Personally, I don't think it is possible. I'd imagine it would be more of infatuation. Chemistry surely can't be transmitted across an email etc. Maybe it could be the start of love but without meeting somene I don't see how it can be love. x

[legend758duo]

io heard tell of someone who had a longterm online relationship.but found out the person was a complete fantasist and had gone to extraordinary lengths to portray themselves as such.even down to a girlfriend then a child and even feigning serious illnesses too!!!! all im saying is its too easy.some folk in unhappy relationship`s ,which appear to be plentiful here on answerbank are probably just glad of attention and dont wanna think too much about what might be true or false .the fact that they are getting much needed attention ,especially at a time when they are vulnerable makes their judgement suspect im afraid.when you feel noone wants you and you get a little attention you dont ask too many questions eh????

[Immi666]

YES YES YES YES YES!!!

I think it is possible to fall in love before you've met someone.

My current boyfriend I fell for before we met. We met once and havent had time in the few weeks since, but we're falling for each other deeply.

Immi xxxx

[andy-hughes]

I have read the thread with great interest.

Let's take the 'safety' aspect of this relationship as read - you don;t sound like a naaive or stupid person.

I think the appeal of this relationship so far is that it is completely under your control. There is absolutely no invasion of your personal space, your privacy, or your life, and you can hug this feeling and enjoy it, because you know where the lines and boundaries are.

All this will change wihen you meet. You will have a physical person to fit around the personality that you know and love - and you have to accept that when the nebulkous image that you have so far may crystlaise into a living breathing individual who you know is the person that you love, but is not someone to whom you are attracted.

I am absolutely not trying to rain on your parade here - my closest friend lost his wife to cancer and has emigrated to America to be with someone he met online, and they are married and blissfully happy, so I know it can, and does work.

All I would say is, be careful with your heart, and be aware that there are a number of Rubycons to be crossed before your real relationship becomes as real and important, and lasting as the 'virtual' relationshiop you have now.

I wish you every success, and i hope you will keep us up to date.

You sound like someone who has been looking for happiness, I sincerely hope that you have found it.

[AngelFurious]

andy-hughes - Thank you so much for your reply. It makes a lot of sense.
I have no doubt that this man is being honest with me. He has been open and upfront from the start and I can't explain why, I think I would 'know' if he wasn't.
He seems like a genuinely lovely guy and I am really looking forward to when we do acutally meet for real.
I, of couse, do have my guard up. I have been painfully hurt in the past, I spent 5 years in an abusive and violent relationship, so I am not about to fall for just anyone. I will not let this happen to me again.
I know that there are a lot of nutters and oddballs out there who use the internet as a disguise and I will be careful. Thank you. xx

[Silversky]

I'm with Immi!
I'm completely and utterly in love with my boyfriend of 5 months. I met him on myspace. The only problem between us is that we live 100 miles away from each other, so we rarely see each other =[
Even with this between us, we are both really happy, and wouldn't be together without the internet.
Oh and I knew I was in love with him about 2 weeks after meeting him online, we didn't meet up for another 6 weeks after that.
But really do beware, he stayed with me and my family for a week and met alot of my family and friends, so they all checked him out and made sure they thought he was safe and suitable for me.
We now see each other every 3 weeks at least... although he only just left today and Im missing him loads! But I will be seeing him next friday ^_^ can't wait!!!