Advice please...... :-)

[jammiedodger]

Hello all, I need advice to kind of get one over on someone with words.... im not too good with arguements etc and what to say!

Story is....... about this time last year I was single and fed up so decided to get in touch with my ex, not knowing he had a new gf. I kind of over reacted as he didnt wanna know and kept emailing him and dumped the stuff he had bought me outside his house. His gf got involved and started texting me etc.

I have a new boyfirend and haven't contacted him since then until a few weeks ago where I sent him a msg on a website saying 'hi how r u?' and then again after I saw him driving, none of which he replied to.

Thing is his gf has started sending me msgs like 'leave us alone' etc and 'stop pestering us' also ont he website. Personally, 2 msgs to me doesnt constitute pestering, just asking how someone is, no innuendos, no nothing!

I dont care about my ex anymore but get annoyed when his gf thinks she can send me these msgs. I am happy with my new bloke, very happy infact, but stuff like this just gets me all wound up!

I want to show her I dont care about them so does anyone have any ideas on what I cud write or how to handle the situation???

P.S. Please dont just tell me to leave it and not reply to the msgs, I want to annoy her, the vile B****!!!

[jammiedodger]

Champagne- sorry but iv already dun it, I just sent a message her prfile saying 'this is the last time i will contact either of u, iv got more important things to worry about in my new life than trying to be friends with the past, i hope ur both happy together.'

although this is not the action i contemplated before posting my question, i have taken on board all the advice and have realised it will just spiral further and that its just making me look stupid and needy, both of which i am not.

I shall now concerntrate on my new relationship as my new boyfriend is absolutely awesome!!

[annie0000]

I took jammie's question to be an outpouring of frustration rather than a serious question about what we could do to get back at someone. I presume that jammie just wants to think about all these things that she could do to redress the balance as she sees it, without actually doing anything that falls foul of the law. Sometimes people just need someone to have a laugh with to lighten the mood and de-stress. Am I the only one that imagines putting someone's head through a mangle when they have annoyed me (whether justified or not)? I have never and would never really hurt someone intentionally, but it is a way of difusing the tension just to fantasise about it.

Of course jammie just needs to forget it and move on, but surely she is entitled to a bit of a rant and rave first.

Anyhoo - i'm off to the post office - anybody want anything while I am out?

[annie0000]

Sorry, about 6 new answers came in while I was typing - must learn to type faster - it's making me look like an idiot!

[Champagne]

Jammie, to be honest I went through all that stuff at your age too. It's made me the woman I am today! I guess you have to learn through experience so you do whatever you feel is right. Let's just hope it turns you into a better ex-girlfriend later on in life, 'cos you can't keep going around damaging the ones who loved you for a brief time.

And your dead right, pa__ul. I know that I won't be able to 'let go' of my ex until I move onto a new love. Even though we've stayed firm friends and I know he loves me more than anyone, a part of me still wants to see him suffer for all eternity while my life is blissfully happy!!!

The heart remains a child.

[Rubyrose]

Well done annie. Great answer. It's about emotionally relieveing tension. Thats why people sl@g off their enemies to their friends coz real friends (although they may not agree).. they b!tch with you and make you feel better! And we all need that sometimes!

While you are out can I have a book of first class stamps, a medium sized jiffy bag and a very sharp letter opener. I need to send a rabbits head to my ex! Will 2 stamps cover that?

[annie0000]

ha ha ha - do you need the rabbit's head as well or will madam be supplying her own?

[Rubyrose]

No no.... that's fine. I have my own Rabbit.... although do they sell ready made rabbits heads at the post office? Damn! I must have skipped that aisle... if you happen to see one.. I will have one of those too. It will save me some hassle!

[Champagne]

My ex doesn't have a bunny. Maybe I'll buy him one for Christmas and then boil it for Easter.

He could buy me a new rabbit for Christmas too. ;o)

I would do something really nasty to his dog, but I love the little rascal too much. Maybe i'll just dognap him and flee the country.

[jammiedodger]

well i never thought my post would spark up this much convo!

[annie0000]

Not at the post office, but I have to walk past the butchers - don't think the stamps will cover it, if it is more than 18 mm deep, it will have to go as a packet and not a letter. Unless you want me to look for roadkill on the way over - I might find a squashed one.

[annie0000]

Doh! slow typing once again. - note to self "type faster"

[Rubyrose]

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