Should I still send a birthday card after being dumped by them?

[amulet]

Erm, as above! hehe, I was dumped in a fair way a few weeks back and i think it sorta ran its course. Ofcourse I still miss him like mad but he's met someone else now. Should I still send him a 21st birthday card? Or leave it? Present or just a birthday text? Some people have told me to cut off and others have said to still send something as we were together for 2 years...Any ideas?

Thanks

[Suzyboo]

Just a text at most I think wishing him a happy birthday but not requiring a reply - it acknowledges the occasion without being seen as a big deal like a present could. Especially as he has moved on, I think the low key, casual approach of a text would be best.

[Bruizedapple]

Yup - I agree

A really non commital have a nice day kinda text - just dont get invovled in a big text conversation or anything!

[laurence2]

Send him nothing, it did'nt take him long to get over you {new GF}.

[Cockney_si]

Don't bother and if they ask tell them you were too busy to out enjoying yourself to remember.

[redhead23]

bloody hell ! no way , dont make urslef look so bothered and desperate !

u have finished its called a break up coz its broken , leave it alone , he will love that , great for his ego , and saying to his mates - she cant get over me look she still sending messages can't she get the hint

NO MATE DO NOT DO IT , LOADS OF MEN OUT THERE , ITS JUST COZ ITS RECENT LEAVE IT

[Trinny]

Dont send him anything. He has moved on quick enough. Dont even give him the satisfaction of knowing you were thinking about him.

[jno]

it won't do any harm to behave in a civilised fashion. All the same, thinking about it does suggest he's still playing a big part in your imagination, and maybe it's time you were trying to get over him rather than clinging to his memory. No present (presents are definitely for people you haven't been dumped by), but a text should be fine.

[chazza]

if you are still in touch normally, then send a card or text. If you are not in touch for any other reason, don't bother, it could be taken the wrong way and you could be labelled a saddo!

[888sally888]

I would be strong and NOT contact him if you can.

[Reverandfunk]

I'm a bloke and NO NO NO!!

[amulet]

thanks for your answers, at the moment, i feel that i will just cut off from him completely, to protect myself from further hurt really. thanks

[Trinny]

You are doing the right thing amulet. Its difficult, I know. But you will thank yourself one day, that you didn't send him the card, only for him to ignore you completely, and make you feel like ****.........been there done that btw. x