advice needed

[statin13]

I am a student on a placement.I have feelings for a patient, someone who is on a short rehab programme.can you tell me if anything happened between us afterwards, once he was discharged, I could be in trouble? bearing in mind, nothing has happened between us at all so far or will while he is an inpatient.he has asked for my number, but I havent gave him it at this point.im really torn, I dont want to give up this chance as it feels so right, but neither do i want to jeopordise my future career.any opinions will be appreciated.

[missrandom]

Hi, I dont think its something thats allowed really. I think it might be beacause you have built up a relationship whilst he is your patient, even though nothing has happened..yet. I think its probably best if you leave alone, he might not be in the right frame of mind to be entering a relationship, and you wouldnt want to ruin your future career. Unless you think he's worth the risk? good luck xx

[bednobs]

are you a student nurse?

[statin13]

thanks for your answer, exactly what i was thinking, just needed some confirmation.this person is of sound mind etc, dont get me wrong, in any other circumstances it wouldnt be a problem but under these circumstances i have to take a step back.In saying that, I feel its one of these things, it just took me aback and Im loathe to let him go.Im not involved in his care as such, we just struck up a friendship etc, had a rapport.in that respect, I dont feel its taking advantage or being unprofessional as its not out in the open etc.but i still worry if things went further i might be in trouble.

[smudge]

Personally, I think you should hang fire & wait until this person has been discharged, then see what transpires.

As the song goes - albeit a bit corny, but true:

Que sera, sera

Good luck in your future career. -x-

[smudge]

P.S. Was trying to post that for ages, but it was sooo slow & there weren't any posts on here when I started!

I agree totally with missrandom.

[statin13]

thanks smudge :-)

cant beleive the circumstances I have met someone that has blown me away finally after so long.I'm always so practical etc.but this has knocked me for six!
I have thought about it and wondered about the situation, but I dont think theres any inequality here, apart from my obvious situation.im not talking about being unprofessional, and its hard to explain, this person only asked for my number as they were leaving and we knew we wouldnt see each other anymore.it was a very subtle thing, and this person is not a flirt or a womaniser by any means.I am just so torn, my head usually rules my heart, but this time, im finally stumped.I just need to know that it wont affect my future career, as I was a student and not in charge of this persons care?

[alijangra]

If you wait until after he is discharged, there should not be a problem but you should not give him your number whilst he is a patient. When I did my training, a girl in my class met and ended up marrying one of her patients. Sadly they were only together a few years as he had cystic fibrosis. As long as nothing happens whilst he is a patient, there is no harm in it.