What can I say

[Baby Jane]

my world has just fallen in on me ,my darling mams chemo has not worked and now the dirty fithy cancer is on her spine. They told her half way through that the tumour had shrunk but admitted today they made an error and it hadnt. She is now 5 stone and they are to give her steriods. They will also give her one blast of radiotherapy. For the first time since finding out she has lost her smile,her hope and the will to fight. Its not fair its just not fair.

[bigmamma]

Baby Jane , I can't find the right words love but my heart is heavy with your sad news. Hug and love for you sweetheart .xxx

[johnlambert]

ditto what bigmamma said
xx

[raysparx1]

Hello Baby Jane, So sorry to hear that, it is awful, try to keep her smiling I know it is almost impossible, but you must keep hoping, it does not look good and I am not going to even try and give you false hope, because realistically it is going to be very hard for her to come through this,, the steroids may give a short term boost, but that does not last, talk to your mum, cuddle your mum and treasure her, you don't need me to tell you this stuff anyway, just try to keep her fighting,but as you know yourself, if this does not work, i need say no more, lets hope it works, take care Baby Jane, thinking of you, Ray x

[Baby Jane]

Thank you so much for your kindness

[horselady]

And here's me sitting grumbling about work and how much I've got to do when I get home!! You've just put everything into perspective.

There are no words to make you feel better, just be sure all of us on here are thinking of you and your mum. Loads of love and kisses.
xxx

[.v.natco.v.]

I really feel for you. Same happened to my mum, Still trying to get over her death. Her death didnt come to much of a suprise as she was suffering for three years and she also lost weight couldnt smile or move or talk. But you just have to try and remember the good times you had and what a pleasant life she had before the suffering began.

Never give up hope, im sure she will get through this.
xx

[Baby Jane]

Your all such lovely people, thank you for caring




bigmamma
I am going to see her this evening (she is at home) but I have a lump the size of a foot ball in my throat and my eyes are red, how am I going to face her. How can I make her feel positive

[stylinsam]

Im so sorry to hear of this news baby jane. and there are no words i can say to make you feel better. Just try and be strong for your mum and make memories memerable.

Be Strong Hunnie

XXXAll My LoveXXXX

[raysparx1]

Baby Jane, you will manage to do it somehow, you will find inner strength, never bottle it up, even if you spend half an hour crying together, take care and look after yourself as well,Ray xx

[johnlambert]

i don't think you need to do anything baby jane, I imagine she will put on a brave face for you if she knows the situation, and I imagine she does know and will want to protect her lovely daughter.
you are not facing this alone sweetheart, all of us on Answerbank are beside you when you need us

[Carakeel]

Dearest Baby Jane, my heart goes out to you. I have been where you are right now, but it was my son and he had brain cancer. A great many errors were made in his case and I quickly learned that fighting this dreadful disease is not an exact science and that mistakes and misjudgements are easily made. The doctors do try the best they can, but sadly sometimes what they think / hope is happening inside the body just isn't. I must tell you though, I have also been through cancer myself and even though I was told I had no chance of surviving, I did and have been cancer free now for nearly 20 years. So you see, one never really can predict the outcome. My attitude is to NEVER give up! Your Mum is going through so much at the moment, as are you and what you can do to help her is love her and be with her through this. Your love and support will give her much needed strength and indeed at some point - her smile back. You will see. It is so important that family and friends are as positive as possible. Your Mum really needs positive attitudes and thoughts to help her get through her treatment and give her the best chance of winning her fight. Find ways of pampering her, i.e. go for a beauty session together or a concert etc. Try to make her time away from the hospital positive and full of life, without exhausting her of course. This will help you as well as her to regain strength and find a way to smile together again.
I send you a big hug of strength and hope that things do get a bit easier for you all very soon. XXX :o)

[smudge]

I am so sorry to hear about your Mum Baby Jane & wish I could wave a magic wand & make her better for you & all your family.

Thinking of you.

Love Smudge. -xx-

[rom]

im so sorry to hear this
take care and i am thinking of you xxx

[Baby Jane]

I have cried more just reading your answers so hopefully I will be all cried out before I go to see her ,Carakeel,your an inspiration darling and I will never forget your words.Ray,John, Stylinsam & nat thanks for letting me lean on you. Im on my way to see her so I will put on a smile. love you all

[unrulyjulie]

Baby Jane, my heart goes out to you and your Mum. No words i could ever say will help you but i just wanted you to know that i'm thinking of you and i wish you all the very best in your hard times that lie ahead. Cry when you need to cry and give each other strength!
God bless you
Love Jules xx

[Baby Jane]

Jules
Thank you sweetheart,that so kind of you. xx

[Bewley_Bros]

We all wait for death, even healthy people. Have faith until the last breath is drawn. Only God knows when the time is right.

My death waits like an old druid'
so confident, I'll go his way
whistle to him
and the passing time...
my death waits like a bible truth
at the funeral of my youth
we proud for that -
and the passing time..
my death waits like
a witch at night
as surely as our love is bright
let's not think about the passing time

But whatever lies behind the door
there is nothing much to do...
angel or devil, I don't care
for in front of that door...
there is you.

My death waits like a beggar blind
who sees the world through an unlit mind
throw him a dime
for the passing time...
my death waits there between your thighs,
your cool fingers will close my eyes
lets think of that and the passing time
my death waits to allow my friends
a few good times befor it ends so

let's drink to that and
the passing time..but what ever lies behind the door,
there is nothing much to do
angel or devil i dont care
for in front of that door.. there is you
my death waits there among the leaves
in magicians mysterious sleeves
rabbits and dogs and the passing time
my death waits there among the flowers
where the blackest shadow, blackest shadow cowers
lets pick lilacs for the passing time
my death waits there,in a double bed
sails of oblivion at my head
so pull up the sheets against the passing time
but whatever lies behind the door
there is nothing much to do
angel or devil....i dont care
for in front of that door
there is........................
thank you.

[Baby Jane]

Bewley

That is lovely and yes I will keep faith,thank you

[xhxmxsx]

i'm so sorry to hear this baby jane , we are all thinking of you at this terrible time
hugs and kisses

[nursecarla]

I have been through something very similar to what you are baby Jane and all i can do is echo what has been said, be there for her as much as you can, the steroids will give her some temporary relief but unfortunately there comes a time when they cant work any more, let her see you smile and make sure that her last days are surrounded by the people she loves, this will give her more strength than any medication xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx