Can gits ever become gentlemen?

[sosad]

Can Gits ever become gentlemen and settle down?

[Doc Spock]

Everything happens for the best or so I believe.
Move on and enjoy life.

[redcrx]

so you were both being unfaithful to your partners and you wonder why hes now cheated on you?

Whats happened to the relationship you cheated on?

[cazzz1975]

a good question red, I would imagine he (the guy she cheated on) wouldnt feel to happy either.

if your unhappy why cheat??, leave the relationship or talk it through??? why do the dirty and ruin lives for the sake of it?

[redcrx]

so perhaps the question could also be could you ever become a lady and settle down? two wrongs do not make a right.

[johnlambert]

That's just what i was going to say red, I didn't realise she had a partner as well, she calls cheating men gits, what does she consider calling herself as a cheating woman?

[Pippa68]

When I was 17 and foolish I went out with a married man. After almost a year I finished the relationship, but he told me he would leave his wife.

I asked him if he really believed I would want a permanent relationship with a cheater! if a guy can cheat on his wife with you, he can cheat on you when you are his wife. Simple.

[johnlambert]

Hey Pippa, I met my wife when she was 17 and I was married to someone else, she's now 30 (but dont tell bher I told you) and we are very happily married. When I met her I knew she was THE one, i would never consider cheating on her, she is my life

[Pippa68]

There are always exceptions to the rule, John :o)

Of course there are many like Mrs Lambert number 2, who do go on to have long term relationships with the cheater ~ genuine love does happen...but for me it wouldn't work. I was right...my fella DID go on to have several affairs with other women and even after divorcing his wife and remarrying hasn't changed his ways.

In sosad's case this may also be ahead..after all they hadn't even split up before he was on top of another woman! I feel mor sorry for his wife, to be honest.

[johnlambert]

Errrrrrrrm
she's mrs johnlambert No3






I'll get me coat
Xx

[Pippa68]

*Pippa walks off sniggering*

Tut tut, Mr Lambert!

[redcrx]

third time lucky eh? :)

[sosad]

I feel sorry for his wife and his kids!

[redcrx]

whos?
do you feel sorry for your husband / partner?

[sosad]

Of course i feel bad, but it wasn't like I hadn't tried and tried to sort things out, and it wasn't like I hadn't explained how I felt for a long time. He knows exactly how i feel, but no i haven't told him what I'v done, because I know it would hurt him, same reason I'v not told this new stuff, because it would hurt her.

I made the biggest mistake of my life, at the time I thought for all the right reasons - now I know I am a complete plonker and have only made evrything ten times worse.

I don't think my pushiment fits the crime though.
do you? if this is Karma, have I had my share, more than my share or is there still more to come?

[redcrx]

your punishment was to catch some STD wasnt it?

If youre unhappy in a relationship ideally you should get out before embarking on a second. OK you didnt, but you can hardly now complain that the guy you were having an affair with was doing exactly the same to you can you.

As for the STD, surely if you were having an affair it wouldve been wise to take precautions. Is you husband likely now to be carrying that STD?

[sosad]

My husband & I don't have sex so no there is no chance.

I agree with you to a point, the only thing I am so hurt by is the level of managed expectations.

If you tell someone your unhappy, and have been for years their level of understanding of your relationship is equal.

On the other hand saying that you are the love of my life to more than one person is surely cruel beyond beliefe is it not?

[redcrx]

lies are cruel, all of them. I cant see how telling someone you love them when you dont is any worse than seeing someone behind your husbands back. You arent brave enough to tell your husband its over and your lover isnt brave enough to tell you he was seeing someone else. How can you think its any different?

[johnlambert]

Am I getting the wrong picture here?
1) do you love your husband?
2) are you IN love with your husband?

[sosad]

My husband I do not love each other, but felt the kids were a bit young for us to split up.

I agree that lies are cruel, perhaps your right, perhaps there is no difference in saying you love someone when you don't and seeing someone else, It feels very wrong to me, perhaps because I'm not the sort that would do it normally so am a bit shocked.

[redcrx]

im sorry i dont think you have any grounds to complain about the way hes treated you.

as for staying with your husband because of your children, you have already said you were leaving him, living alone for a while before moving forward with your lover.