I really need a break away after Mum's passing

[muchlovex]

My mum recently passed away mid-June of this year, after battling Cancer for nearly 2 years. I have been off work for about 2 and a half weeks and I returned on Monday. I am going for a break away for 1 week this Saturday to the South of France. I really need a break in the sun as I helped look after mum in the last few months of her life. Does anyone think it is bad me going away for 1 week after the passing of my mum?

I am consious of my colleagues saying that it is..

Thank you

[raysparx1]

Hi muchlove, Please,please,please don't feel bad about going away for a break, you need that rest,if people you work with think like that,they are not worth worrying about, you can't have done any more for your mum, now get out there and try to relax a little, life does go on and your mum would want you to get on with living your life as normal as possible, will mail you later, take care, Ray xx

[muchlovex]

Hello ray,
thank you for you lovelly comments.

Will mail you too.

K

[unrulyjulie]

Hi muchlovex, as always Ray has got it right. I think it is exactly what you need right now and its also what your lovely Mum would tell you to go and do!
You go and try and enjoy it to the best of your ability.
Jules X

[bigmamma]

Of course it isn't bad at all muchlovex and ray has said it .
Your body will work it's way through your grief and taking this respite can be what you need right now. As the others say , your mum would want you to go. xx

[Octavius]

Why would you give a stuff what anyone else thought. If you need a break and have the time available, take one.

[muchlovex]

Thanks guys. I am probably being too over sensitive at the moment.

Thanks for your support.!
luv
muchlovex

[horselady]

I can't believe your colleagues would say it's bad!

You deserve a break, have as good a time as you can, you don't get over losing your mum for a long, long time, if ever.

Off you go to France and look after yourself
xxx

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, i think you deserve a break really. Also, you will feel much better when you get back. i dont think any of your colleagues will think anything of it. They will totally understand.
You will be wary of anything you do for at least a few months yet, as you subconciously thimk that everything you do may be judged. Just take each day as it comes and try to get back to normal life. It will be hard, but i am sure you will cope...

[Shadow Man]

When I lost my wife five years ago, I went away for a whole month straight after the funeral.

I just needed time to reflect and time to think.

Do not worry what your colleagues think. I left an entire regiment in a war when I went!!!

All the best. Time truly is a great healer.

[ruthann58]

your colleagues have obviously never lost any one close. You go and have a break it will do you good.She was your mum and she would be glad that you are able to get away Ruth xxx

[Carakeel]

Muchlovex, your dear mother would be so happy that you are taking this much needed break! You are doing the right thing. After two years of trauma it is exactly what you need and should do. It is time to look after yourself now and getting away is a really good way to start this. So, have a lovely time and please ignore anyone who criticises you taking steps to mend your broken heart with a bit of TLC. Your mum would be proud of you after all you have gone through. You have kept things together and now it is time to start a new chapter with positive action. Have a lovely time muchlovex and tell us all about it when you come back. Big hugs! XXX :o)

[susiespider]

Your colleagues won't think at all badly of you. I have just been in the same situation, I lost my eldest son in April after 10 months in hospital, something I haven't even begun to get over, and don't think I ever will. However, in June, we booked a cruise for 2 weeks at short notice as I just felt desperate to get away from everything. It really helped. The grief hasn't gone away, but for the first time in ages I could relax a bit. My work colleagues were all very supportive - they said I deserved the break and could see it did me good. I hope you have a really lovely time as I know that's what your Mum would have wanted.

[raysparx1]

Hi susie, I have no wise words to take your pain away for you, nothing I or anybody else can say will help you, just wanted to say I feel for you, I cannot imagine what you are feeling, take care, Ray xx