Man Radar

[Champagne]

I don't think I have one.

Can anyone else explain why I haven't even been chatted up by a bloke since February? I mean, I'm not desperate or anything, but I'm just starting to get a bit paranoid here!

[essex bloke]

hmmmmm your arent walking around with a brown bag on your head or anything strange like that? or failing that come to Essex and i shall use the essex charm on yer

[jno]

That'd be not counting Octavius, I presume. Anyway, it's not your man radar that's failing, it's their babe radar.

[Reverandfunk]

U ain't a minger are you lol

[leewayne]

blokes may be intimidated by you! They probably feel your too good for them to approach you,or how about you chatting them up??

[MaDmAnGuNnEr]

r u good looking? sometimes if a woman is too good looking then it intimidates a man. they dont like rejection and most will feel that a woman who is too good lookign will automaticly reject them, therefore they would rather try with the not so good looking ones leaving the prettier ones alone.

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, show me a pic and i will tell you if its why you arent being approached because of your looks...

[jno]

Champagne has good looks and to spare, so that ain't the reason. You haven't stopped washing or anything? (No can't be that or you'd show up even more clearly on their radar.)

[Cheesefreek]

You know, in the early 90s I realised I hadn't been out with, or been even close to going out with, any bloke for ages. It was a sudden realisation one morning. I didn't change my going out plans or start looking, and yet a week later I met the bloke I'm still with 16 years later. It'll happen all of a sudden. Just don't look desperate! My bloke mentioned that his first sight of me was while I was reading the newspaper in the pub while with a couple of friends. He reckons they were on the look out, while I looked "cool and nonchalant". I think I was just reading the paper! but cool and nonchalant sounds OK to me!!

[China Doll]

Let me know where you can buy one of those from.

I always like a little advance warning.

[Champagne]

LOL @ China!!

I don't look desperate Cheese. I think that's half the problem. I'm usually engrossed in conversation with a friend over a bottle of wine in the corner of a pub!! I think i'm actually oblivious to other people in the vicinity because I never really notice any guys. Or if I do it's along the lines of, "Ooh, girls... eye candy at 3 o'clock!!" and then I carry on with our conversation!

I think I really do make myself difficult to approach.

It really is that my man radar is switched off. Partly because I hate the dating game. It's painstaking and unpredictable. I'm much happier in a relationship.

[Champagne]

Oh, and it doesn't help that one of my regular friends is a 5'9" stunning brunette with a clothes horse figure. The kind of girl that men approach just to say, "You are the most beautiful woman i've ever seen."

Sickening.

I must kill her off.

[China Doll]

I bet she's a really nice person too? I hate people like that. We'll kill her together.

Sounds like you answered your own question though Champers. If you're uncomfortable in the dating game and don't 'put yourself out there' or whatever it is we're supposed to be doing these days then no one is going to approach you.

Simarly if you don't do all that flirty stuff, (start another thread, I'm as good with flirting as I am at atom fusion) then I guess blokes wouldn't know you want them to approach in the first place.

Or you can be like me.... I base my mating rituals on that of a panda bear which is less eats, shoots and leaves and more a very rare and difficult process. (Alternatively described as 'bl00dy hard work')

[Octavius]

Aw, my poor little pot noodle. You just need to get yourself noticed.

http://manoloshoeblog.com/images/badhairs.jpg

by the way, can I have your mates number?

[Cheesefreek]

Know what you mean Champers - if you could just suddenly FALL into a relationship without any of the initial stuff, it would make life so much easier. Just out of curiosity, does your stunning friend get chatted up, or after they have done their "most beautiful" speech, do they just fall back in an intimidated way? And have they got a friend for you? ; )

[Champagne]

Of course you can, Octavius, it's 0898 69 69 69.

And yes my friend is a really lovely person. Although, at the same age as me, she's a late bloomer in that she's only just discovering her sexuality (her prowess with men). She doesn't like herself very much but is now starting to realise that men do! It's not necessarily a good thing though, as I found out when she snogged an old ex of mine a while ago when I specifically asked her not to.

You've hit the nail right on the head, China. Thing is, I can flirt, but I just wonder when I'm going to have to stop all that. I'm 34 now and for all I know I could still be on the market when I'm 60!! So a part of me thinks that maybe I'm destined to be a singleton in which case I should just relax and accept it. Which is sort of what i've been doing.

I think that's it you know. I feel like I'm just too old, wise and long in the tooth to be out there flaunting myself like a 20 year old!!! *yawn*

Pass us the newspaper, Cheese...

[China Doll]

Well why don't you try internet dating then?

That'd mean you can specify what it is you're looking for and tailor the window shopping so to speak.

[essex bloke]

or how about speed dating ?

[Octavius]

Champs, thanks for the number which I have just rang. Your friend might be good looking but by Jehovah she is rather foul-mouthed, honestly, the things she was suggesting would even make you blush. Not my type at all at all.

I think the error of your ways is that whilst sitting nattering to your friend you are not sending out the right body signals. Men might feel intimidated because of your �handsome features, but will be even more so if they think they might be interrupting a deep and meaningful lady chat.

I have seen your�..particulars. The only radar you need is a pleasant come-and-get-me smile, that�s my opinion anyway, and that counts for much.

[Cheesefreek]

How has Octavius seen your particulars Champers?!!