i cannot believe what i am reading here, if its a wind up then i apologise, but on reading the original question i am sure that it is not a wind up.
firstly to topogigo, I salute you. Being beaten is no jolly up, but to also have a disabled child to bring up .... well you are one hell of a special man, and to never have raised your fist to your wife, well you have my total respect.
ab_user you are probably just that!
ray and laurence well said.
Mr ben, I can see your point and it is a whole lot better put then the above two 'people'. However, its no longer a case when the law only acknowledges battered women, there ARE , men casulties too.
I do not know of any mens hostels as topogigo said, but I do wish both you and your family a happy future.
But also remember that you dont have to put up with it, tell the social services maybe, they will help you and will not take your child away for your wifes demeanours./