dont know what to do!

[wiggal]

Been with my fella 3.5 years now, everything is great between us, i adore him, i know he loves me to pieces!, have a home together and all that.
Ever since i was about 14/15 i have said i will walk down the aisle to The Celts, by Enya. that would just be so amazing for me. Only problem is, my fella cant stand Enya at all, and he has said basically, if i want that as my song on my wedding day, i can find some one else to marry!
Please dont think he is just being horrible, he just can not stand Enya at all!
We are not engaged yet, but very much both want to spend the rest of our lives together.
Ive just always had my heart set on that song when i walk down the aisle, but he wont have it :(

[Petal~flower]

Hi wiggal, well if thats all you have to worry about, then you are a lucky girl. Pick a song you both love. Your wedding day is for both of you remember

[sense4all]

What is more important the ceremony or the marriage... it is that simple. Someone is gonna have to compromise ... welcome to the serious relationship world!!! There's gonna be more like this over years honey, lol.

[wiggal]

sense4all, thats the thing, someone will have to compromise, but when it comes to come things we are both very stubborn!
Ive dealt with alot of things pretty well i think and people take the p!ss out of me for being old before my age because im very happily settled and dont do the usual teenage thing as they see it. its just always been my dream to walk down the aisle to that 1 song, and he says he wants the traditional thing wedding march, which i dont want!
I spppose one of us is going to give in, and its likely gonna be me if the last 3 yrs are anything to go by! but grrrrrrr!

[Petal~flower]

be thankful you are with a man who loves you. Having Enya playing whilst you walk down the isle is not a big deal really wiggal.

[wiggal]

finding a song we both love willbe a big thing though lol!
that is one thing we never agree on!
We both really dislike eachothers musuc taste! hmmm!

[Petal~flower]

dont let the choice of music spoil your day. Its such a tiny thing, honest. You will have bigger things to argue about once you are married lol

[wiggal]

this is how bad we get!
He hates ;the depressing song' but it one of my faves (REM Everybody hurts) and for me to be able to play that song, he gets to play 10 songs of his choice!
I think music will be the one thing that causes us to get divorced, if it even allows ua to get married!

[Petal~flower]

Honestly wiggal, if music at your wedding is your only problem, Like I said before. You are a very lucky girl. Forget the music. Just enjoy being with the man you love

[annalou]

surely if you're gonna get married in a chuch you'd have traditional music?? I had some trumpet thing (quite nice thou, same music prince charles and the princess of wales had on their wedding!) 1992 and it really doesn't seem that important now - i'm opting for a thai wedding with my partner of nearly 8 years - hot, sunny, just the 2 of us! better than spending thousands on others!!

[sense4all]

Wait 'til he wants to call the kids something odd, now that's a standoff lol.

[wiggal]

i just dont like the traditional wedding music at all!
Petal, its not the least of our worries at all, we have money worries and such at the mo,
Its just something that has really got to me! might seem pathetic i know but most girls want their big dress and that... im not so fussed about that, just my song! i even tried to bribe him by saying he can have as much Queen as he wants at the reception lol!

[wiggal]

sense4all, when we have a kid (tbh i dont think i can but atm, he wont take me seriously) he wants to call his son Byron! not a chance, no offence to anyone called Byron or with kids called it, but definitely not my choice!!

[Petal~flower]

really wiggal, dont let it get to you. Its one day. The music is a few minutes. You have your whole life together to look forward to

[sense4all]

Trumpet Voluntary or the arrival of the Queen of Sheba ( tried to get a free sample no luck )... if you have always conceded then have a serious chat, I don't think always giving in is the sign of a healthy relationship either.

[wiggal]

wense4al, we are both very stubborn to a point, i will always give in and apoligise even if ive done nothing wrong!
But i am a soft touch in general! i would never ever raise y voice to any one but alan, nhe gets all the !!!! ive help up for years, he gets it full throttle! so i end up apoligising to him because he doesnt deserve any of the abuse i give him!

[jno]

you're falling out over music... you can't agree over a kid's name... he doesn't believe you when you say you can't have children... Not wishing to be a cold water pourer, but it occurs to me you have some way to go before there's a meeting of true minds. How you sort the music out might well be a signpost for how your relationship goes.