death

[nannon]

my granddad dies last night and i feel weird...never lost anyone in my family before and cant seem to quite comprehend that he's gone. I didnt get a chance to see him before he died and feel awful.
Not sure how i'm supposed to be feeling....

[4gottenabout]

everybody loves a different opinion just a bit more tactful :-) I know from other things on here you didnt mean it maliciously like some do on here.

[ab_user]

I really wouldn't want to kick someone when they are down 4gottenabout, but in the same vein, I won't pussyfoot about someone just to please them, I will tell it like it is.

[sense4all]

It's not because your view is different it is because at a time when someone is vulnerable you were insensitive , that's my opinion ... so as you are keen on telling it like it is I am sure you will appreciate my view.

[ab_user]

That is fine, but this is a public site and you can't post that expecting everybody to send love and words of sympathy. It's sad but also strange.

[yinyang]

I'm sorry for your loss, nannon and my thoughts are with you at this time.

I lost my papa at the end of May. He had been in a hospice for many weeks and I was lucky enough to be able to see him the evening before he died and say goodbye. However in the days that followed I just felt a bit weird and couldn't cry. This was so different from my mum and my gran that I started to feel that I must be handling it wrong. However as others have said there is no right or wrong way and eventually I did allow myself to cry for him.

As for using this site - I have been on here a few times to discuss my papa's and my dad's illness'. Sometimes you need to speak to people who are not emotionally involved in the situation, sometimes you just feel for various reasons there is nobody else you can talk to but if you don't let out how you're feeling you will burst. There is always someone on here who will listen.

I hope you get to be with your family soon. Take care.x

[nannon]

Thank you x

[jane1098]

sorry for your loss nannon.
feel how you want to feel. dont worry about not seeing him before he died. remember how you felt when you used to see him. remember how he was around you. remember the good times.
God Bless.

[bigmamma]

Sorry to hear that nannon , death is always hard to come to terms with , give it time and go with whatever you are feeling , it's perfectly normal to be like you are.
All the best ((HUG)) xxx

[Drisgirl]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss and I understand fully why you posted on here.
I lost someone close 2 wks ago today - I couldnt sleep and I needed to talk/put down my emotions or else I would have gone mad.
The response from the caring people on here was magnificent and they helped me through that long night -I shall be eternally grateful to them all.
Please dont take notice of people who have nothing to offer but sarcasm -its ****** all to do with them why you felt the need to post and they obviously are not feeling the grief you are at this precise moment.People can be insensitive.

My love and hugs to you at this dreadful time xxx

[dot.hawkes]

Hi nannon, i am sorry that you have lost a your grandfather and i know your parents will be very deeply upset, grief is a strange thing.
My family lost a very close friend just over a week ago, I was unable to function much for a few days but a week ago Sunday I did put a thread up in the Family Life section relating the details and asking for advice on how we could tell my grandson that his Godfather was dead. I had some lovely replies over last week, and people were very concerned. I certainly woulkd not have put the thread in this section, which is a sad thing, but I wouldn't have done.
We are going to see him at the Chapel of Rest this evening and the funeral is on Friday. Sometimes shock makes you confused and unable to think straight, I know my son has been in a state of shock all last week and it has been rotten to see him coping with his grief. I hope you are there for your family and will be stepping up to carry your grandfather on his last journey, that's what you could focus on.

[Kleiber]

Nannon, I'd just like to say how sorry I feel for you and your family as well. The only consolation I can offer is that your grandad lived a long (and probably happy) life - he had the pleasure of having family and grandchildren who loved him. He'll always be with you.
Gypsy - the poem was lovely!
Nannon - here's another for you:
"You can shed tears that he is gone
Or you can smile, because he has lived.
You can close your eyes and pray that he'll come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see him
Or you can be full of the love you shared."

It comes to us all at some time - be brave and cherish your memories. No-one can take them away from you. K xx