Do you believe in love at first sight?

[filthiestfis]

....I dont. I believe in lust at first sight. Quite often someone tells me that theyre not interested in what a person looks like in order to like them, that theyre not into looks...then a while later they tell me "You've got beautiful eyes" or "I really like the dark mediterranean look in a man" and thats when the real them comes out. Its pointless to deny that as human beings we dont judge people by the way they look. If you find someone physically attractive then you are going to treat them better. If you find someone physically repulsive then you're not going to want to date them. Unless you're Stevie Wonder I fail to see how anyone cannot be influenced by looks.
What do you ABers think? Do you agree with me?

[B00]

Yep totally agree with you, it's definitely looks which attract you to a person, though it is personality which keeps you together.

However, be very careful with this question as I was called vain and shallow for stating the exact same thing a few weeks ago from our Tenerife resident.

[confused79]

I agree too, its lust at first sight defo not love, it may eventually turn to love, you cant know a person totally at first sight, it does have a lot to do with looks.

I will say my partner now said he fell in love with me as soon as we met but i still say it was lust, and infatuation. Others i bet with disagree but i will never change my mind.

[4getmenot]

I agree in the lust at first site but dont agree with the looks thing. I got to know and fall for my ex over texts and he really wasnt my type at all. but he had a really big heart.

[leg_end758]

confused at ther risk of getting you in bother with our residentogre ( yes you BOO)

i will agree with you .
lust yes , love no.
i dont think that you can find love at first sight ,or if you do it wont be a lasting love .

im sure you can be influeneced by looks .

but you would indeed be shallow and vain if it was only looks you were interested .

drum rollllllllllllllllllllllllll

in anticipation of the wrath of the ogre : -- )

[B00]

Why would confused saying the same thing as me get me annoyed? Nice try on trying to rattle a few cages there Leg. However, unlike you, most of us can hold differing opinions on a subject without resorting to childish tantrums and name callings. Oh yeah and making our points LOOK LIKE THIS is also something we can live without doing.

Have a nice day :-)

[Reverandfunk]

What about us 4get lol

[filthiestfis]

Of course that you can fall in love with someone in the long term without being very physically attracted to them. But the first thing you notice is the way they look.
Boo- if anyone denies this then they are kidding themselves. In my opinion, this is FACT. Call me vain and shallow if you like just for the sake of arguing!

[4getmenot]

yer if they were to meet them then yes the first thing is looks unless they are blind, but if they hadnet met them they can still fall for them.

[B00]

Good poing 4get- but if you fell in love with the personality first, then they turned out to be swamp donkeys, would you still want to form a relationship with someone?

Me personally, I really couldn't go out with someone who was truly ugly no matter how sparkling they were on "the inside" (and yes, im risking being called shallow again here!)

[4getmenot]

well he wasnt good looking in my eyes. but hey we didnt last so maybe thats why.

[Octavius]

You can be attracted to or lustful for someone without seeing or meeting them, as said above. For example on the internet through chatting, or hearing their voice on the telephone or radio. To form anything meaningful (i.e. love) then this has to encompass some physical aspect, even if someone is blind, a person can have �presence� or feeling and features which adds to the attraction. For most of us it is the physical appearance, which would firm up the attraction either way. But most men aren�t that fussy, especially in the last hour at the nightclub!

For me to be attracted to a woman, she has to be womanly, intelligent, sophisticated, witty, slightly vulnerable but also the ability to be strong + lots of other attributes. Which is why I am in love with Kelly Brook and cannot wait to see (a lot ) more of her in Strictly Come Dancing.

[leg_end758]

you mean you dont like me typing like this?�?�?�?�

is sore on your wee eyes


or i couwld tawk liyke knobby doers and mack
fings bee speledd al wriongg??

[confused79]

I wasn't just saying what i said to agree its my personal opinion and really dont think love at first sight can happen.
As i said my partner said he did with me but i dont beleive this we did have several phone calls before we met and i started to fall for him over the personaility i got to know, but i wasn't love it was infatuation to start with, it was a bonue he was very nice looking when i met him, but it wouldnt have bothered me if he was not high up in the looks department, i know many good looking people but are ugly inside and i think that goes as a whole .

I will say i admit if i met someone and they were but ugly i probably wouldnt fall for them there and there in the lust way i mean, but i would never write someone off becuase of thier looks at the end of the day we are human.

[leg_end758]

isnt it strange that we all start of a lot nicer looking than we end up?

im sure 20 years ago plenty folk wouldve gone for debbie harry.
ask them now and they possibly will have a different opinion now.

and are people as attractive to each other after perhaps 20 years?

does that mean if you get uglier then should you just ditch them?

[confused79]

octavius you sure its not Kelly Brooks large assest that you were attracted to first!!! ???? and her figure and face?

[Octavius]

Only if the love and lust has gone, leg end.

[leg_end758]

lukily 4 me i knowzz thart ahm ugerly.

irt dont bovver me thart much my weee flowurz

http://www.youtube.com/watch?vHqEq7ABYzEQ

CFFGSD

[Octavius]

Well I�ll ignore that as it is gobbledygook and, as tedious as they are, I can�t see those embedded thingys anyway.

Confused, I�m not really a 'bigger the boobs the better' fan in all honesty. I find her attractive overall and she always seems so pretty and womanly, and the long dark hair�brrrr!. I am definitely a leg and bottom (and dark hair) man.

[leg_end758]

but if the love came from first sight octavius as has been said.

that would sem to say that when the looks go the love will go with it??

perhaps thats thereason for the rise in divorces .

as folk get older and uglier they want a nicer looking model??

and if you decide someoness not looking nice enough are you saying its agood enough reason to ditch them??

[confused79]

i see what your saying octavius - i have heard Kelly is not very intelligent, but obvously you cannot beleive everything you read, she is very womanly i agree and not trashing like some famopur people are, she also carried herself well and i always see her dress womanly and never tarty.

I cant wait for come dancing either!