The biggest argument of all

[chesnuts]

2nite i have had the argument from hell with my husband u can not believe, his mam lives with us as does his 17 year old son and my 2 dogs, i feel utterly shattered and worn out, i am scared 4 my dogs and am hospital 2moro to have 2 biopsies on my face for a mark that cud b skin cancer i feel so unhappy i dont know wot to do or where to turn dusnt life suck. and to those of you who hate text talk i am sorry but tonight i am not bothered i just want some friendly answers not putting me down because i have said "cos" or txt talke d but becos y the heck shud us women who take on our fellas family have to be the bad un and yep i knew wot i was getting myself in for but i thought if i at least stuck up 4 his mam wen he calls her a reatd (She has had a stroke) and his son becos he loves him, wot am i doing i have my own problems anyone who remembers me knows i already have two broken legs apparently they r talking the casts off in 2 weeks time but i am getting grief off work too, hell of a life eh?
Please go easy on me 2nite i have *** on here looking for friendship and a nice word not horribleness, thanks

[hau kola]

Hi Legend,your posts had gone when i read this this morning,now they`re back.You certainly didnt say anything wrong(or society)as far as i can see.

[VillageVicar]

Chestnuts: It was I who provided you with the number of the Samaritans. After reading your initial message, I felt and still do feel, you desperately need some continuing dialogue. Whilst the internet has its benefits, I feel it�s important for you to have an in-depth conversation with someone who not only cares, but can sound out options that perhaps you have not considered.

Clearly, there are many here on AB who sincerely care about you and your situation. But the very nature of the thread here adds not only more pressure on you to explain yourself, but increases the possibility of us misunderstanding certain key points.

I especially feel, given your current medical condition, it is also extremely beneficial for you to have some documented conversations.

One thing the Samaritans can help you with is talking through a process to help you find some inner peace right now. The thread on AB might technically have the facilities for us to interact in laying out a process, but sadly, my experience is that there would be someone who would deliberately interfere with the process and possibly cause you even more distress.

I would be honoured to speak with you as well. Whilst AB is supposed to have a degree of anonymity within it, I am not opposed to providing you with a number to call. However, considering the turmoil you�ve had with your husband�s outbursts over you communicating with anyone, I again feel the Samaritans may be the best step. Nevertheless, if you�d prefer that we talk, I can make arrangements for this.

May I ask please, do you have food in your home as well as the ability to prepare it? If not, there may be some assistance we can schedule through Social Services, such as meal delivery, etc.

I hope you find peace in your home as well as within yourself today

Fr Bill