Would you or have you ever settled for second best?

[katangel26]

Hi all, it's been a while!

Would any of you or have any of you, ever settled for second best when it's come to settling down and finding a partner?

x

[Ice.Maiden]

Hell no! You wait for the best one to come along, and if he/she's already taken, or it doesn't work out - then it wasn't meant to be in the first place.

[Quoi]

I ended up with 4th best - I would jump at 2nd best !

[Drisgirl]

No -I had the best first time round but we couldnt live with each other -then years later when my ex and I finally did divorce along came H -totally different type of relationship and we have had a rollercoaster ride but man in the 10 yrs we have been together we have lived anyway.No baffies and pipes for us.

In writing this i'm just wondering if it was maybe me who was too much too handle -lol

Naw -love(d) them both and neither one was/is second best.

[cazzz1975]

If you dont have that special spark then you will be tearing your hair out very soon and dreaming of escape.

the song "home" by sheryl crow is quite sad but poignant

[funnygirl]

No, I wouldn't either.
You just would not be happy and always wondering 'what if'

[Drisgirl]

No -i'm sound Leg really -pressures of high pressured jobs, both working fulltime 2 kids -etc etc -just different men in diferent times of my life.

Its possible to love 2 people -I was young the first time and older the second time - still love the both of them for different reasons and h does understand cos he is ace with the kids helping them and with me when I have a moment.

I think I have been bloody lucky -well it remains to be seen with H but he keeps me demented so ergo that keeps you lot entertained.

[stevie1time]

Every potential partner you meet and love or think you love, is number one at some point....Second best is only learnt afterwards..The people you talk about on holiday Leg,they at one point in their relationship was two peas in a pod...No such thing as the perfect partner or soulmate,if everything was perfect,you'd get bored....Relationships eh! like taking a bath....real hot at first but it soon cools down ....

[Drisgirl]

I'll speak to you another time about it Stevie -thanks x

[megan07]

Hi Katangel, i thought i had the best, until he started kicking and punching the life out of me, but i have a good man now we have been together 9yrs, and this one is the best, hugs megan. xxxxx

[Mr k]

Hi Katangel
I did fall for second best in my last relaationship but now im glad i didnt..
If it was meant to be it would of been
there loss
Take care x

[unrulyjulie]

i did, big mistake !

[Ice.Maiden]

I believe that you can love more than one person, for their different attributes - but not BE in love with more than one at once. There's a difference, and when you're in love, you accept that you're not going to find perfection, but the good outweighs the bad.

[beso]

I did have second best for several years. But in the end I took a chance and jumped for the best. Only did it after I was sure I would never be happy with my first marriage.

Twenty years later jumping ship was still the right decision.

Life is not a dress rehearsal. You have to go for the best or one day you find yourself old and disappointed.

[Ice.Maiden]

Totally agree with you, but some stay with second-best partners, or feeling second best themselves, for a variety of reasons - namely for the sake of children, or for financial reasons. Also, many people THINK that the grass's greener - and then find out that once the initial lust's worn off, it's something very different, but personally, I agree with legand and others - it's better to stay single than play second fiddle, or take on someone who's second best just because you're lonely.

[evedawn]

In the words of my mum when my hub and i got engaged ...

" don't marry someone you can live with, rather marry someone you can't live without"

Sums it up 4 me.

[smudge]

I'd rather be single than go for second best - thankfully, we've been married for many years...