Is there a God ?

[theonlyone]

My friends son was killed in a rta 3 years ago , and now her grandson has been killed in a rta . So what do you say or do.

[Drisgirl]

Firstly I am so sorry for your loss -its not until youve been there that you appreciate what someone is going through -my heartfelt thoughts are with you.X

In answer to your Q -not as far as I am concerned.I dont believe anyway but if people get comfort then thats all good.

If some Minister had chapped my door after what happened to my family then he/she would have got short shrift -prey on the vulnerable mostly -that is my opinion and I respect others opinions.

[cruella]

I am sorry to hear about your friend's loss.
The fact hat two members of a family left this world the same way is terrible.
As to there being a God. I just don't know.
We, hubby and myself are going through a terrible time at the moment with Hubby's illness and there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel.
All I can say to you is, be there for your friend, talk if he or she wants to talk and be there to even just listen or put your arms around them and give them a hug. That would probably mean a great deal to them.

[China Doll]

If there is a God it would be unreasonable to expect a deity to be involved in or have any concern for the lives down here as they simply wouldn't be able to understand or relate to it. But that's not going to help your friend.

RTA's are not the fault of any deity and what we have here is just a very sad set of coincidences.

If your friend has a faith then I hope it brings her comfort and that she receives all the support and kindness she needs to help over this time. CRUSE are a very good berevement line and would be able to advise you on practical support and maybe in time help your friend but it might be a bit raw at this moment to go suggesting that.

My condolences.

[Lonnie]

Like the others, i'd like to offer my condolences, and I fully understand your question, in the light of whats happened.

Sometimes these things can rock your faith right to the very bottom, and sometimes, they can make you pull together, and strengthen your faith,

Others have heard this before, but i'd like to repeat it here.

I lost a brother, four years old, to an unlicensed driver, my parents faith kept them going, and gave them a lot of comfort, me. even now I ask why?, but my point is, if you normally go to church, talk to some of the people there, they'll understand your dilemma, and even if it doesn't help with your question, it most surely will be of some comfort.

[Drisgirl]

Sorry -but Cruella I didnt realise your husband was ill.

I have bleating on about my circumstances without a thought for others.

Dont say if you dont want to but with all my heart I hope you get the light at the end of the tunnel.

I havent forgotten how kind you were to me xx

[ace63]

deepest sympathy to your friend and her families. say what you would want to hear. do what you would want done to or for you. be yourself. your friend knows you as you. when i lost my mother a couple years ago after she suffered for 18 months in terrible circumstances i questioned my faith. and now i am awaiting a lung biopsy. my faith should be weak. far from it. if i didn't believe in a God, my mothers death would be final. she, and billions like her would be no more. God loves us. He does not end lives. we as humans do. God is consistant. we are not. Try reading "Footprints" it lifts me. i dont go to church.i just hope.

[cruella]

Lonnie
So sorry about your Brother.
Ace,
I do hope that you get a positive result back
Dris,
Don't worry about anything you post. AB keeps me going at times.
Hubby has been battling Cancer for 4 years now.
He had an op and more chemo last week but the treatment is taking it's toll on both of us. At times it seems to worse that the illness.
Anyway, today is another day!

[leelapops]

theonlyone, what a sad situation for your friend. My condolences are with her, and you too. Not much to say past what's been said already. People underestimate the power of being there for someone.

Lonnie and Dris, sorry for your pain.

cruella, I often think of you when you post, and how you and hubby are doing. I hope that light emerges soon, you must love each other so much. xx

[Drisgirl]

leela thanks hun x

cruella -I had no idea -this must be a dreadful time for you and your hubby.Coming on here is a form of escapism and it does you good.Please keep me posted -I will be thinking of you both -hope you can manage to keep the strength going xx

[theonlyone]

Thanks for all your replies , nice too know there is some one out there to talk to .

[legend758duo]

What you dont do is ridicucle other people who tell you theyve recently been bereaved.Thats just low.