dont you think sometimes it would be nice to talk common sense to some one

[shanx]

without this he said , i said you said , everyone blaming each other , sad world we live in full of bitter people , who complain about there lives and dont care about anyone except themselves , if they were told tomorrow they had a week to live ,because its about them their outlook would change

[raysparx1]

Was just going to bed but had to answer, shanx this is so true, If only people would think, I had such a shock few years back when my wife told me she had cancer, jesus a cricket bat over the head would have hurt less, luckily she got over it, also had a son nearly die in an accident at work broke his bvack in 3 places and smashed his hip when a trench collapsed on him fukin hell I have got tears in my eyes now. think people please think!!

goodnite all xx

[Drisgirl]

My 2 beloved and adored children lost their much loved dad 4 months ago in an accident.

We still havent come to terms with it and still go to phone him and I still have his number on moby and on the kitchen board because we are not yet at the stage of letting go,

I just wish my 2 had the luxury of being able to say goodbye to their dad -they couldnt even have the 'finality' of seeing him in his coffin for obvious reasons.

O boy - you just dont want to ever be in the position of seing your children suffer -their lives have changed and so has mine.

We are all still in denial cos its easier.

[tiggerblue10]

Awww Dris that is so sad. Sorry to hear that hun xxx

[i am zigzag]

hope youre not down in the dumps shanx?

youre a star babes xx

[Drisgirl]

Tnaks TB -think everyone on here must be sick me going thro all the stages but when I do have a dip everyone raliies round and heps me.They are just fantastic.He was me ex but we were married for 18yrs and knew each other for 28yrs -great pals and i miss him every day -I feel as though i'm in some mad time warp cos i have to be strong for R and J then I have my own peronal memories that no-one can take from me and it hurts sorely all round.I am strong -just as bloody well cos I would crumble most people If they had even an inkling of what i'm going thto daily -but life has to go on for our kids so I have to be positive and strong and grieve in private for their loss.

Im welling up as I type -its a bloody struggle keeping them at bay -I tell ya lol

[shanx]

no zig im ok , just get pi**ed off with people whos heads are up there own arse , and think money will solve there problems , when health is more important

[i am zigzag]

health is a strong issue shanx
so is yoga
the idiots must possess both to be able to perform such an act lol

[tiggerblue10]

Awww Dris, just let it all out. Its part of the healing process, not that you ever get over it of course but its good to cry. We all care (well most of us anyway) on here so carry on girl. xxx

[shanx]

come on dris , me and you girl we still have our sense of humour right ? xx

[Lore]

Dris ((((((((((((((((( massive hugs ))))))))))))))))))) to you xxx :o(


Shanx, sadly life just isn't like that, I try to take everything with a pinch of salt and let the nasty people get on with their self importance (if that's what makes them feel better) I kind of look at it like this... If they're having a go at me, then they're leaving someone else alone.
I'm too long in the tooth to put up with the crap and too wise to waste time battling it out with them.

There are occasions where I will say how I feel if it's something that I feel strongly about. but on the whole, I'll keep those I can trust close and those I don't at arms length.

[Ice.Maiden]

Ray and Dris....I wish you all the luck in the world for the future xxx

[shanx]

i know lore i have always got my feelers out , i come across as friendly but on the way pick out the the genuine from the sh**e i have met so meny bad ones , i can sus them now , think thats one thing i got right , well hope so xx

[Drisgirl]

Thanks TB and Angel -you are sweethearts.

I have to keep them at bay a lot of the time cos I remarried although H knows I struggle and when he is home he helps J who lives here -like taking her shopping and things.He will never be her dad but she leans heavily on him and he has taken up the mantle.R lives in Edinburgh and had currentky is blanking us all -he is deep depression but he's older -I have told my brother (my rock) and he has been EMailing R about comuters and just being jokey with him and it seems to be qorking -fingers crossed -(OMG -what would I do without my brother -seriously -I adore him -he and i jst gel and he has always been there for me-=-even during the night -I am sooooo lucky)
He knows that I am struggling just now so he has quite simply taken over the mantle -couldnt ask for better.

Thing is its my Mum and Dads Golden Wedding on the 25th and its been bligted by Daves death and I soooo want to to be special for them but they are also pained cos he still came to see them and my dad was with him the day before he was killed.

Its just a huge tragedy all round and ATM I cant see us getting through it .

I am strong but so verry sad every day.

I just so want my mum and dads special day to be special so I am concentrating on that just now

[Ice.Maiden]

Huge hug to those who feel life's being so cruel at the moment. It upsets me to read about these things, but shows that we need to try and keep a sense of humour in other departments. Hopefully, these terrible things just serve to make people stronger - xx.

[shanx]

i do try ice ,i think it is important to laugh or you will go down a deep chasm, it dont mean you dont care or forget its a pick me up

[Ice.Maiden]

Course it is - and evening Shanx! xx

[Drisgirl]

OMG I took so long to post that I,missed you all -sorry -I get carried away -its like a therapy for me -TB Angel Ice and shanx -thank you so much.xx

I dont know whats got me this time -think its cos my son has gone into a deep depression and is swerving calls -luckily je is answering my brother so I have to just let him deal with it in his own way when all I want to do is cuddle him and tell him it'll be OK but i cant.Its tough .

O life is sooooo crap but I have to find something to make it worthwhile for them -o man -I feel so feeble at times.