Help to conceive...

[sally1001]

My friends are desperate for a baby - they've been trying for 8 months now and although she had a low iron count at first is now deemed to have a full bill of health. I know its agony for them and i wondered if anyone had any tips to give them to help out as the doc's wont see them until they've been trying a year but the older they get the hearder it must be!
Any tips appreciated - please, just ones i wont feel embarrased saying out loud to them both!
x

[redcrx]

ive not had problems conceiving so cant imagine how it must feel like to make the decision to have a child and then sit and wait and wait. My fella and his ex wife tried for years though so he knows all about it.

The only think i can suggest if they are both healthy, non-smokers etc is to have sex in middel of night. Only if both awake and in the mood, no point in setting alarms and making yourself perform if not in mood.

I can accurately date when i fell pregnant each time and both of those times were in middle of the night. My reckoning is that

a) your body is relaxed
b) you fall asleep and dont get up, so body doesnt expel the sperm so readily as it would if you were walking about straight after
c) you tend not to get up and rush to the loo, again avoiding disposing of the good stuff.

Most important thing though is for them to relax.

have they also considered recording the dates for ovulation so that they can focus on the 2 or 3 days either side?

[bednobs]

i think the problem here is "desperation" surely that can't be good? 8 months is a very small amount of time to be trying and to be so desperate after such a short time really dosent bode very well at all. They should just be enjoying the trying!

[sally1001]

Thx Red - yes they've been counting the cycle but i recon its the relaxing bit thats getting harder the more they worry about it. They both stopped smoking and drinking months ago. I will definately suggest the sex in the night thing- i'm sure they'll be more than willing to try! well, he will anyway...

[redcrx]

might also be worth her taking some pre-natal vitamins as some are beneficial for conceiving. Plus it means she will be getting folic acid in readiness too

[mrs_overall]

One of my relatives & husband went to see their GP after trying for 14 months. Hubby had a sperm count and all was OK. They were given a temperature chart (she had to take her temp each morning before getting out of bed) to find out when she was ovulating. They were advised that to try the missionary position with loads of pillows under her hips, and that he should ejaculate and then she should have an orgasm (apparently the neck of the cervix contracts & expands and "hoovers up" the semen). She was advised to keep her hips raised for as long as possible.
They now have 2 kids!

[Oldbutgold]

Check out the quite common medical condition 'endometriosis'. Look at some of the listed symptoms and then review them with your friend.
Prospects (perhaps with medical intervention) are good. There are diets too (like gluten free bread - yuk!).

[mandi_25_uk]

Bit of a strange answer but it has worked for myself and 3 of my best friends.
After sex tell her to lift her bum and legs into the air while her hands support her hips. Like when you exercise and cycle in the air. Stay like this for as long as she can manage. Alot of the semen runs out of you when standing up and this just gives it a better chance of going the right way.
Good Luck to them!

[sassenach]

I have read that the average is 9 months, which might reassure them. I know however that when you are trying the world seems to be full of people getting pregnant at the drop of a hat.